Silent treatment
Despite the fact that I cab barely stand the sight of my ex-husband, we speak to each other in a reasonable way in front of the kids. Same with my husband and his ex. The cold shoulder comes from my ex toward my present husband and my husband's ex towards me! It's ridiculous. We have tried to be friendly...or at least cordial...but not a word is spoken. EVER. It's as if we're invisible. It's uncanny, because those two don't know each other but their behavior is identical. None of our relationships overlapped - there's no overt need for hostility. Luckily, we don't have to see each other often but as the kids get older ...well, I just cannot imagine a graduation or wedding or whatever with this silly behavior. What a model for the kids! Makes me crazy!
You should get all six of you
You should get all six of you together and introduce everyone all around sharing contact information. It's likely the two silent ones will be attracted to each other and dump your respective ex's.
No doubt you and your husband have been vilified by your ex's and nobody would even dream of wanting to be cordial to people of your caliber. Silence being the best thing in such situations you should just crawl back to your den knowing that proper society doesn't mix with your kind. (Written sarcastically).
Frankly considering that others have the ex's literally stalking them you're among the lucky ones.
Do you get the silent
Do you get the silent treatment from your ex and does your DH get the silent treatment from his ex…or is it just ex to new? Strange.
I actually think this
I actually think this behavior is pretty normal. Your ex assumes you have told your current husband all his bad stuff, and he has told his wife all your bad stuff so why would they bother? My ex bf of two years was super friendly with my exh and it drove me nuts. My current bf of a year+ leaves the room or walks away if the kids come home or there will be an interaction. He has his own drama with his ex, why would he want to be involved in mine?