Sorry…long rant…. I SO need to vent!

So, been married a whole whopping 2 weeks and SD18 moved in with us the minute we returned from honeymoon. Her mother practically kicked her out and forced her to come live with us 9 hours away from her. I am now beginning to see why. If you remember my other post, this is the girl who has no tact whatsoever! She is rude, selfish, inconsiderate, whiny, and extremely blunt!

But here’s the thing; On one hand she is super sweet and loving. Her and I (along with his other 2 children) hit it off immediately and have gotten along so well thus far! I mean I truly love them and feel that they truly love me! Our children also get along great, so I have much to be thankful for! They are full of hugs and I love yous, and I give the same in return! While SD may be 18, she has the mind of a 13 yr old and behaves accordingly. We are trying our best to help her get a job and prepare for college (though I highly doubt there will be any success there), I have helped her fill out applications, forms, made up a resume for her, etc.. I spend time with her playing on FB and YouTube, I braid her hair, and compliment her excessively on her looks (which is so hard considering she looks just like her nasty, fat, fugly mother), her singing, her “smarts”, and her cooking.

Over the past couple of weeks though, her constant complaining and insults are starting to get to me. She had barely settled in before the whining began; She logs onto the family computer, downloads all of her stuff, changes the homepage to her liking, hooks up all of her cameras, microphones, etc for skype and then whines like a baby that our “stupid computer is horribly slow, has something wrong with it and we need to get a new one”. Does the exact same thing to our laptop, and then proceeds to complain about what a piece of crap it is. …….spills nail polish all over my dining room table and then proceeds to tell me what a crappy table I have and when am I going to get a nice one……isn’t used to using a gas stove (although she wants to be a chef when she grows up), can’t time the food right on a gas stove and so it must be a stupid, crappy stove and I should get a nicer one……can’t figure out how to use the high-tech washing machine and so she informs me that I should get a “real” one……..stuffs the dishwasher so cockeyed that the soap dispenser can’t open causing an entire load to come out crappy and then tells me how much nicer her moms dishwasher is and that I should consider getting one like hers (grrrr)………Is a filthy slob (like her mother), takes a bath or shower and floods the whole damn bathroom, then tries to blame it all on the tub and ceramic tile….the list goes on and on…..

Should any of this actually be the case, I could possibly give her grumbling some leeway; however, I bought this house (and everything in it) LAST YEAR! An awesome house in every way, so unique with 4 different levels and balconies under a completely open concept vaulted ceiling….omg…just awesome house. Then…completely remodeled the thing from top to bottom, new flooring, completely remodeled all bathrooms, new rooms, new kitchen, all new well…EVERYTHING!!! Dropped a shit ton of cash on this place and own it all 100% outright. Put ALL NEW (expensive and very nice) furniture in every room! Including all new stainless appliances, tv’s, gaming systems, surround sound, 3 new computers, etc…. you get my drift. Not a single thing in that entire house is more than one year old! So for some whiny little brat to come in here, trash and then bash every single bit of it is a little bit f-in ridiculous! I have subtly tried to imply to her that her complaining of my things that are brand new and nice is just a bit offensive, but it’s like hinting to a child that their behavior is wrong…they just don’t get it!

And so the other day, as we are driving to the store to pick up some things for HER – new clothes, new shoes, etc…. she blows me away with this one; She just out of the blue looks up and says…

SD18 - “Your brothers (who she just met 2 days before and spent 1.5 hours with at a family dinner) are so much nicer than you”
Me - Um…what?
SD18 - “yea, I really like them, they are so much nicer than you are!”
Me – Uhh…ok. Really?
SD18 – “You are so mean when you fight with your daughter. It’s embarrassing”

Honestly I had no idea how to respond to that! I have been nothing but nice to this girl! Helped her, guided her. WTF?!?!?! I wanted to say “Are you fucking kidding me?” “Could you be any more of a rude ass?!!?” Or maybe I should have said “Ya know dear, I was just thinking the same thing about you! Your brother and sister are SOOO much nicer than you! They don’t moan, groan, bitch, and complain about every little thing under the sun. I mean really, just being near you is embarrassing!”

But of course I would never say those things. And what is even more disturbing? DH was sitting right next to me in the car when this all happen and said NOT ONE SINGLE WORD! How can he possibly expect his grown daughter to go through life as a functioning adult when he teaches her nothing about how to treat people. And of course I can’t say anything to him about this behavior. He is so touchy and defensive when it comes to his kids. Even a small hint that I am not happy with one of them and it turns into a huge fight wherein he reaches for any kind of dirt he can find on my kids and throws it in my face! I am at a total loss as to what to do. I am offended at her treatment of me, at the same time feel sorry for her because she hasn’t been taught any different.

This poor girl is doomed!