So my house is for sale. We are living somewhere else and it is vacant. My husband is an attorney-broker and schedules showings. The problem is that he gave stepsons 16 and 18 permission to come over there to play street hockey without my permission. Not only that, but when he supposedly has been over there for showings, the three of them are instead playing hockey in my driveway. I found out about it because they left equipment out These are two stepkids who decided to have nothing to do with me because I tried to establish some boundaries with them, but it's okay for them to use my property without my permission? I wouldn't let my own kids hangout there since it's vacant. It opens me up to liability and who knows who they might invite over there. And quite frankly, I am furious that I wasn't even consulted and that it seems to be perfectly okay that they do this even after I bring it up. And of course I was reassured that the perfect angels would NEVER go there if their father wasn't there. So what do I see online? The oldest entitled one asking people if they want to play street hockey. Grrrrrrrrrrrrr. I can't mention that I saw this because my husband will think I'm snooping, but quite frankly I check online just to find out what they are all planning so it's not a big surprise to me.

On top of all this, my husband has had pathetic cash flow and I have been paying for almost everything, including two houses for the past two months. But he still has money for the oldest skid's gas, his gym membership (I pay for my husband and I as a couple.) I think I have just about lost it with the situation because I feel used, used, used. And it is infuriating that he thinks he can tell his kids to use my property as a playground. And when I bring up that it is a problem, he gets defensive and says that his kids would never go there alone, etc...and acts like I am a raging bitch to ask that they not play at my property. It isn't theirs at all. I own the house 100%. If it were an outside real estate broker allowing his/her kids to do this, they would be fired in an instant.

Am I being a selfish nasty stepmonster or is there something way out of whack here. I cannot stand the power my husband grants to his g---d---- golden boys over resources that are mine and acts like I'm the one who is doing something wrong.

I made a marriage counseling appt. for this week, but quite frankly I'm almost thinking that it is futile. I can't seem to get my husband to understand that it is my choice whether to allow his kids to use my assets, my property, my time, my housework, etc...and allow them to walk all over me, and the situation has been festering and festering and the three of them decided not to try to talk things out and resolve the issue. Instead they avoided me. My point is if they chose to have nothing to do with me, then don't use my property.

I am so angry and resentful at the entire situation that I'm not sure I'm being fair and objective or just vindictive and mean about not wanting his kids to use my property, but geez I would expect a little more understanding from my husband. His kids are not my responsibility and how can he give them permission to use property that doesn't belong to him and then act like I'm a bitch to tell him no.

So now I feel like I will have to drive over there constantly to check on my house to make sure his brats aren't over there. How can this be happening???