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Submitted by AshlynToLee1987 on Tue, 09/27/2016 - 1:29pm

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Blended Family Issues

Okay I'm new to this website, I came on here to seek some help and input, I have been married for four years to my husband , and he has three daughters both are grown but we still have his youngest she's 11,and comes over on the weekend I'm used to this enough,but recently she's been whispering in front of her father and I in the presence of my 3 year old and making personal comments and making fun of my child,and at times at me,and is never corrected, shes been doing this for a while but I have never said anything to my husband about this because I don't want to hurt his feelings I also don't want disrespect in my home. I also keep hearing her constant insinuations, (I'm pregnant) basically she's telling her dad that maybe the baby is not his.. I am already dealing with a DH who is not supportive of helping me very much through my pregnancy,and has mistreated me in the past but, we're trying to work through this, his ex is always I feel like programming her daughter before she comes over to our home,my Mom and other family/friends have told me to get out of the marriage,since there was past abuse,not just physical abuse from my spouse but the emotion mistreatment from his family, his ex wife has recently lost weight via/weight loss surgery, and meets up with my husband now instead of him going to pick them up at the house,my Aunt has said let her have him back he's not worth it,my DH is also more tough on our child together than his first set of kids before.Also, his children want to all the sudden take off with my toddler while I have the baby,I think I can't trust them or anyone in my DH's family.. Should I count my losses and walk??

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Submitted by notasm3 on Tue, 09/27/2016 - 1:55pm

When SD says your DH is not the father of your child take the little f*cktard apart and tell her that her mother was the ho-bag who spawned a child (her) with another man. And that means your DH is not her bio father. }:) }:) }:)

Who cares if it is a big fat lie and that you should never trash the BM. Then get the hell out of dodge and don't look back.

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Submitted by Thumper on Tue, 09/27/2016 - 5:29pm

MY jaw hit the floor when I read that your husbands 11 year old daughter said maybe the baby is not his.

MY GOODNESS.

I am sorry. that is sickening.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 09/28/2016 - 1:20am

BM is feeding SD the crap, DH is condoning it.....

Listen to your mum and leave this marriage, but only after you told little miss know it all - oh shut up you little witch, this is your father's baby and I'm going to take all his money for my children your ho momma can have him back broke and only with the cloths on his back... now ... eff off

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Submitted by Booboobear on Wed, 09/28/2016 - 9:18am

I would not move out unless it is 3000 miles away. If you live too close you will have to deal with your 3 year old and your infant going to visitation with the your DH and stepdaughters without you and you will have no way to protect them. If you divorce before you leave, the courts will make you stay. Get in the car with what ever will fit, and your 3 year old, tell no one and drive 3000. miles away. Then go into DHSH office and file for child support. DSHS will keep him in order and he will be so busy working he won't be able to abuse you for leaving. Do not divorce him. Make him divorce you. It is very stressful to try to divorce someone, and you don't need that with all the energy you are going to need for infant/toddler. use stall tactics until you have been married for over 10 years for social security. Don't get remarried until kids are grown. after all I've been through, I did it the opposite, so this is what I would do differently.

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Submitted by Booboobear on Wed, 09/28/2016 - 9:19am

oh yeah and BM could be your kids stepmom during visitation someday, so MOVE 3000 miles away. 4000 is even better.