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Hi all! I am anxious to post and ask questions....but I am paranoid. I am wondering if any of you have experienced psycho ex-es searching this site to see if they or their children "made the page"...and if so, is it possible that the postings can be used against you in court procedings? Thank you!
I have responded to some posts and I really love this site- it's so good to know that I am not the only one out there going through this madness!
Don't say anything you'd be
Don't say anything you'd be ashamed to show your mother and you've nothing to worry about.
This is so funny I was just
This is so funny I was just going to ask that same question or if anyone ever found out that their BM was posting on this or any other site and starting fighting with them online. Also has anyone been outed by a friend of BM who might have been on this site and felt the storyline sounded familiar and how did they deal with it?
Weird, I was thinking the
Weird, I was thinking the same thing earlier. I think I am going to remove the state I live in from my info page. As long as you don't use names I'm not sure how she can PROVE anything. Most of the examples people give could come from any of us (unfortunately)
. If you are worried about her picking up on specific incidents just keep it vague although I'm really not sure any judge would care about anonymous griping on a blog, how is that harmful to the children?
Our BM was on every dating
Our BM was on every dating site you an think of, including Adultfriendfinders.com. I admit that I had a profile on Adultfriendfinders.com just to see BM's profile and read her postings. I found out she was dating from that site too and that when she claimed to be working at night she was at gang bangs....there was a forum where the people that went to the event chatted and they also chatted about upcoming events. As we know what is on the web is public record, I don't use names or anything that can be directly linked to me...or at least I think I don't. I download this information and gave it to our lawyer, she said it could not be presented it court. Check this out.....she had the right to be in there but I didn't have the right to be looking at her profiles. The lawyer said I was invading her privacy and she could press stalking charges against me because I was looking at her profiles and I had no reason to be at those websites. SO, I would think the same applies here.
Wow, I can't imagine how that
Wow, I can't imagine how that would hold up. It's a public site right? You didn't hack into her information? I'm not a lawyer but it doesn't seem like it wouldn't meet the criteria for stalking!
Sometimes it doesn't really
Sometimes it doesn't really matter whether or not the evidence is formally admitted. Attorneys are good at finding ways to sneak stuff in. What if the opposing attorney just mentioned it at trial? Even if the judge won't consider it as evidence, he can't can't "unknow" something. It's there. It's in his mind.
Another example, attorneys will often say things they know they can't say when questioning a witness....they know the opposing attorney is going to object. And they know there is no way a judge will allow the statement. But once it's out there...it's out there. Sometimes you'll hear an attorney make a statement...they'll be an objection...and the attorney will withdraw the question almost before he finishes asking it. That's not a dumb attorney who doesn't know the rules. He knows exactly what he is doing. Attorneys can usually get by with doing that at least once (sometimes a couple of times) at trial before the judge gets stabby. And attorneys know exactly how far they can push specific judges.
That's why I always tell people to get an attorney who practices in the local courts. They know the judges. They know the games.