well after sleeping on the couch last night, I wake up tom my son playing in the living room. Well DW went to work, and sent me atext asking "what do you want me to do to make you happy." Well I had just woke up and told her that I need to clear my head. I have been asked this before, and I usually get it for a few weeks. I know that I will not get what I truly want, the stepkids love and her full support in allowing me to be the "man" of the house. So should I tell her that all I want is to be allowed to disengage from the stepkids, and that I am not in favor of helping to contribute to their rearing any longer? She wants us to be a family, but only in the sense that I give all to the stepkids and they in turn give nothing back. I really thought that it would be different 5 years ago.