DH and I have been married for a year now. And it has been a wonderful year we get along so well with each other. But of course the catch is his soon to be 12 year old daughter. The BM has gotten sick and tired of her daughter's smart mouth and disrespectful behavior towards her and can no longer do deal with it. So, she told my husband to come and get his daughter.

I knew nothing about her smart mouth and disrespectful behavior. When I asked my DH about her he told me she is kind of kid that likes to help out. It comes out later after my SD has arrived that she is not only disrespectful to her mother but also to the other female family members and her teachers. Her teachers have been passing her along to the next grade so they don't have to deal with her again.

My SD ended up only staying summer break with us. And I was counting the days until she went back. I work from home so I am there all day alone with her. She has no home training what so ever. I had to get her up and tell her to go take a shower and brush your teeth every morning if I didn't she wouldn't do it. One time I told her to take a shower she told me "I took one yesterday." I looked at her like are you serious. She called putting toothpaste on her finger and moving it around her mouth brushing her teeth. Speaking of mouth she constantly puts stuff in her mouth like she's a 2 year old. I have to put her in check everyday cause of her smart mouth towards me.

Following my DH orders I made her summer break summer school. Cause she didn't care about her work during the regular school year and nor did her teachers care. To be almost 12 years she is about as smart as a 7 year old and acts the same way. She will only play with kids that are much younger than her. Big kids playing with little kids equals someone gets hurt. While here she accidentally caused a 5 year girl to hit her head on a hard tile floor, SD didn't even care. SD just walked away from the little girl and even got smart with the little girl's mother and me when we confronted her. And she was not going to apologize to anyone until her dad made her do it.

Since I am not much taller than her she has tried to test my physical strength. When I am working she will keeping knocking on my door cause she's bored. DH and I make sure she is around other kids but even the mothers of those kids can't deal with her no more than a day. Cause she causes trouble amongst the other children and then even the kids don't want to be around her. We are a different religion than her BM's family so she will purposely disrespect our prayers.

Last but not least she is a liar. The reason she only stayed during the summer is because she was calling her mother lying about her dad and I and telling her she wanted to come back home. She will bait her mom and dad into fighting over her with each other cause she loves the attention. But her mother took it to another level. She threatened to call the police and have kidnapping charges brought up against us. Now she is back with her mother but my DH wants to have daughter here for the holiday break without having to say a word to her BM. Which I fear will cause the kidnapping threat again.