I am a 21 year old mama of 2. step-son (jack) is 2 1/2, been his mom since he was 6mo old bio mom not in the picture anymore. birth daughter (elizabeth) is 1.
I am just having a difficult time adjusting as well as dealing with all the emotions and well everyday life that come with having 2 young children more specifically... 1 step-child and 1 birth-child..
from the time jack was 6 mo til 18 mo i've been all he knows as mom. i didnt get much bonding time with him bc jack's family on dad's side kept taking jack from me. they didnt want me to have anything to do with jack they didnt agree with how jack was being raised. so they always took him from me...this all happened when the father was away at work and of course i told him about it when he got home; i got pregnant with my daugher (now 1) when jack was about 9 mo. and now i find myself deeply struggling in trying to bond with my step son trying to establish a healthy step parent-child relationship trying to establish a good strong sibling bond and im breaking under all the pressure. the family is now way more supportive of my being jacks mom,thanks to my father in law. the only problem now are the mother in law who is constantly over running my and my husbands parenting. and my father in law's girlfriend, she was one of the ones who gave me problems before she's been in jack's life just as long as i have if not less. she's a sweet person i really like her and most of the time i do get along with her. but when it comes to jack she's just to mean and rude to me...example.. jack will ask her for whatever and she'll snidely say some rude comment only meant for an adult to understand.
i just need help. i love my son very much (step or not). i love my daughter very much. but feeling are different towards them and that frustrates me and confuses me and im just a mess. if someone could just find time from their busy schedule i would be most grateful.