I feel guilty syndrome..
So start focusing on something else during the week instead of giving him your all. I am sure you make the week pretty much all about him because you love him and want that time with him. And you can stil want it but give him a little taste of his own medicine.. Let him see it with his own eyes what he does every weekend.. Men don't obviously think correctly (lol) and sayign stuff does not make them see, they have to be shown.. SO show him.. let him feel what you feel most of the time.. Lol..
Happy

" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..

I think happy is right, And you should take some of the weekend to do something for yourself.I am sure all week you stay busy and the weekends perhaps is your time to unwind( like most people).

Go have coffee with a friend, Or tell him you would like to stay behind to take some quite time for yourself doing whatever it is you like to do. Just because he wants to spend his weekend like that does not mean you have to.

You still have your own personal life as a individual, And there is nothing wrong with that.You can take time for yorself and still have time with the both of them.

All kids would be "good kids" if the world revolved around them constantly and their every whim was granted and catered to..Your SD probably doesn't throw tantrums because daddy never tells her NO.

I bet you would be suprised to see how quickly his well behaved daughter did a 180 if every weekend at dad's house wasn't a Disney Land Free For all...

If everything went our way, we got what we wanted, when we wanted it and our every whim was catered too..No human being, adult or child, would throw temper tantrums...LOL..

The golden child (my step daughter) is an absolute angel when she is after something she wants or getting something she wants..Butter wouldn't melt on her little forked tongue when she is manipulating her dad and playing him like a worn out flute!

Perhaps, you should take some off while the Dinsey Princess is at your house and go spend some time alone off in your chambers creating poisoned apples like all we step mom's do! After all, even Minnie Mouse needs a break from all the fun at Disney land..and the wicked step mother certianly does too!!

Seriously though it sounds like you need a break..Go do something fun for yourself, or spend some time with family or friends while she and DH are having "fun"..Good luck!

Man, I swear I could've written most of your post. This was a major problem for us too. It got so out of hand that STBX was draining all of our savings to buy, buy, buy for SS and everything we had went to this kid. Ten grand in court fees wasn't enough...he had to have $800 Thomas the Tank train table complete with ALL accessories, $400 4-wheelers, digital cameras, two expensive pianos, etc. This was in addition to the waterpark EVERY SINGLE weekend in summer and an indoor-amusement area during the cold weather. And each week, SS would get a new toy from the store where he went with STBX without fail...and these were not $5 toys. These were $50-$100 GIFTS. Undeserved presents "just because". And on SS's 5th birthday, he walked into our house after JUSt coming from BB's where he'd had a big birthday party, stomped his feet, folded his arms, and DEMANDED to know where his presents were. Of course, i had spent all day decorating the dining room where the brat's GIANT stack of gifts had been arranged complete with the full-party decor treatment, balloons, streamers, banners, favors, a giant cake, etc. SS just hadn't seen the room yet when he walked in. And what did STBX do? He laughed. Yep. He laughed at this little brat then took him out to dinner and got him such a big desert that the cake I spent $50 on went to waste at home b/c SS nor STBX were hungry enough to eat it.

My case was extreme, but that is what happens when you let things go too far. Other than the birthday tantrum, my SS was well-behaved too--because he also was given the star-treatment. He never heard "No" either. He doesn't value a thing. I can;t tell you how many times he's picked up an expensive toy in our home and asked who it belonged to. He didn't even know what was his anymore because he'd been given so much. He has SEVEN pairs of sneakers. And they are all designer. A closet full of designer clothes at our home and an equally impressive one at BB's. JUST at our house he had 2 bikes, a scooter, and a $400 4-wheeler. STBX recently bought him a Nintendo Dual-Screen. That makes 3 portable video game systems. Before we split, STBX was talking about a cell-phone for his next birthday. He's 5.

Do not let this become a "step" issue. This is something that needs to be discussed between you as PARENTS and adults/partners. It is also YOUR money and also YOUR time. When he got married, he chose to share those things with you and that doesn't fall by the wayside when his kid comes around.

Good luck!

This kind of spoiling will do nothing but harm to the child's character.

Ignorance is bliss, until the hell breaks loose. Poor poor parents. Poor poor parenting.

Guilt and step-parenting is so sad for all involved. The parents will end up suffering because the family will suffer.

Things, material posessions, tangible stuff that doesn't matter. & the pride with which it is given, they say: Look at how I can spoil my child.
Misguided energies on unfounded principles. Sad, so sad. & if you tell these people today that they are making a big mistake, they will beg to differ because they are proud.
In 10 years those same poor parents will say, What did I do wrong? I gave my child everything.
In 15 years they'll say, Why didn't you tell me? & I'll say, I did, you didn't listen.

Too late.

When daughter is here for the weekend, not a single bit of housework gets done. Dishes pile up in the sink, laundry, her toys are left scattered about. During that weekend, we completely revolve around her. From our chosen activities to our bedtimes, to our lack of a sex life, to our meals. Real life doesn't exist in this house when she is here.
Ostensibly, he will do it all when she leaves. Except thats around nine sunday night, when he gets very depressed, and falls asleep before leaving for work EARLy every monday.
So who gets to spend all of every other monday scrubbing his daughters sippy cups and picking up the VAST array of toys left about?
yeah, me. Then I have to endure endless comments about how I don't understand because I don't have any kids of my own.
um, yeah... I understand.