I know it's bad but I hate my step kids
Hi all I'm new here and I hope I won't get judged.
I met my partner 8 months ago and I knew about his kids. I have been a step mum before and absolutely loved it and the kids and still do to this day.
But this time round I absolutely hate my new partners kids not so much the older one who's 10 he's ok in small doses but the 4 yr old who is like spawn of satan.
He is rude , disrespectful , greedy, ungrateful and threatened to stab his dad with a knife because he got told off! Mates you read right a 4 yr old threatened his dad with a knife I could seriously string him up! And I am or I should say we are lumbered with them every half term and in summer for 4 weeks. It makes me ill and stressed every time they are here and when I know they are coming and I am also 11 weeks pregnant and don't need the stress as suffered a miscarriage this year. The house we live in is in my name as well and I seem to get no say in what happens. Can anyone tell me if I have a right to say if I want them here or not? Stressed to the max with it all.
Maybe the two of you need to
Maybe the two of you need to slow things down. You met this man less than a year ago and you're already living together and pregnant. :?
You're free to tell him you don't want his kids in your home, but you have to be prepared for the fact that that request may end your relationship. Or he may decide to move out and just continue to date you.
Who said it was bad to hate a
Who said it was bad to hate a skid? Loving them is purely optional.
I agree with itman. No one
I agree with itman. No one says you have to love your step child. I hate mine too as I'm sure a lot of step parents on here do. Don't fell bad about it.
I find that disengaging is the way to go. I have done that with mine and I seem to be happier all around. I've even started eating better have lost weight and began working out again. I don't have all that bullshit stress to deal with anymore. Disengaging is the way to go for step parenting. My step dad did it with me lol. Good luck with your situation. We all feel the emotional pain and stress you dealing with.
The kid is four. His behavior
The kid is four. His behavior will worsen if your partner doesn't get him help.
If your partner refuses to get him help you might want to think about whether you should stay or go.
Not being honest about her
Not being honest about her feelings is selfish. Her boyfriend deserves to know how she truly feels so that he can decide how/if he should remain in this relationship.
As a mother, there's no way I hell I'd live with, have a child with or marry a man who hated my child.