I'm new to this forum, but guess I really needed to vent because I've already posted multiple times! I started with a posting and someone pointed out to me how to disengage - very helpful! So here goes my next situation... I've been with my boyfriend for a few years now and every holiday so far has been spent with his family...my family all lives out of town, some driving distance and some only by plane. The first couple of years I wasn't too bothered by it because it just happened to work out that it would be difficult for me to get away anyhow. Last year, I visited them before the holidays and I guess that was supposed to count. This year is a different story, not only has he not even considered I might want to spend time with my family, he made plans to be available to transport one of his family members from one location to another on Christmas Day without saying anything to me about it. I'm not saying he's going to a family event, he committed to picking someone up who can't drive and dropping them off somewhere - all in all it's about a 3 hour drive! I made up my mind I'm going to go to see my family. I haven't told him yet, but obviously he doesn't tell or ask me before he makes plans - so he's going to get a little taste of his own medicine. I feel like such a bitch, but he has total disregard for my family time. And to make matters worse, one of his co-workers mentioned how he has complained about the drive to see my family...which, by the way he's only done two times. Also, he has his kids every holiday, either on the eve or day of - there's no consideration for anyone else. I want to spend the holiday's with my boyfriend, but I'm not willing to give up every holiday with my family to do it and saying we visit them after the holidays is just not the same. Also, it's not possible for my family to visit me. Am I wrong?