I literally can't take it anymore !!! My stepdaughter has made me hate being a step mom .. she is 21 yrs old and I am 32 yrs old her mom who is my wife is so damn blind she has manipulated my wife into saying yes to everything because she is afraid she won't come around if she says no , my wife literally told me she will never say no because she would rather give her what she wants than not have a relationship with her and keep condoning her lazy manipulative ways  ..this girl has always short changed her mom on bills we always took her and her bf everywhere and paid for every damn thing for birthdays and holidays I have always brought her something and she has never one time did or brought anything for me and mom and honestly it doesn't matter it's the fact that her mom has made her so entitled that she just expects everything from everyone literally days I would be at work for 18 hrs and her daughter just sat in the house with her boyfriend doing nothing and always ends in an arguement with me and my wife because why are you telling me this bill needs to be paid but your adult daughter isn't contributing to anything   .. her daughter is literally the first person to ever make my skin crawl literally... it has been non stop drama since the day I met her ... I generally lived a quiet unproblematic life until I met her everytime I turn around this girl has been in so much bs and she is so manipulative and that the worst part is she went and got pregnant by her toxic bf and hasn't had a job her whole pregnancy and I went thru my wife's phone and found out she has secretly been telling everyone how happy she is about her being pregnant but lying to me complaining about how she is irresponsible and not ready for a baby and knowing she doesn't have a job and we will end responsible for her and this baby because she lives with someone who always wants to put her out and of course mom will always be right there to let her lazy ass move back in.. but why has she been lying to me saying she was disappointed she could've just been honest it's not my baby I don't care one way or another  .... I'm so hurt I literally have given this woman all of me and she makes me feel like crap I always put her first and I always come last  . It took a while but thankfully mom grew some balls and put her out but it hasn't gotten easier she constantly tries to force a relationship with us and it's not worth it it makes me so sad and upset when she is around I get so angry because I have always been the one wiping her moms years away after she made her cry I'm exhausted I literally left my dream house and job  and moved to her house to help her I literally pay the mortgage and feel like an outsider in my own home ... I love my wife so much but it's not worth it at all  .... I'm so tired of her expecting me to be perfect and accepting the bare minimum from her child she has literally told me I just need to accept her for who she is but I need to change so she is happy ... I'm so heart broken I have been doing research nonstop to understand their relationships, I have never met a clingy adult that clings to their parent like this , I have tried everything I'm ready to walk away , and please let me not forget this adult child has ruined some of her friendships because of her drama so I'm just at a lost ... everyday I want to run away I'm tired ! How am I supposed to parent someone I am only 12 yrs older than ... please help I'm ready to leave