It's been a year and I have had enough. I came home today and told my boyfriend how i felt about his daughter and the situation. I told him I did not want to be responsible for his daughter. I also said i do not want to deal with her mother. I have been screwed over many times when she was supposed to pick up her daughter from us, and just didn't decide to come and get her 4 hours after we tried to contact her. Then when i was scheduled for surgery, we had explained to her that we could not take her for the night and we would re-schedule another night because i was having surgery the next morning, She said, fine, just to pick up my step daughter and drop her off later that evening....only to get a text message after she was at our house stating" im going out tonight, i wont be home for you to drop her off" (she said it was ok just so we would pick her up) My sep daughter also showed up with fleas in her hair and pink eye. When i texted her mother to come get her, she said she would, but ended up showing up the next day in the afternoon....
I cant handle watching his daughter and my 2 kids (4 and 12 )on top. My daughter is in day care so when i have a day off from work (wednesdays) i use that time to get caught up on house work , or even just go hang out with some girlfriends or maybe even shop. But I have ended up having to watch his daughter because his custody is every tuesday overnight untill wednesday at 7pm and every other weekend. I have asked her mother to put her in day care for the one day (she is on government assistance so it would be free) and she replied that "she does not want to get up at 8:30 in the morning to take her there..... :jawdrop: Even though her daughter would be here.... :?
With my job, i have a chance to move a few hours away and i am ready and willing to do this. But i know that my boyfriend cant because he has his daughter in this area. I told him i worked too hard for my future and the future for my kids to not take this opportunity if it was to come up, and i know his daughters mom would make it hell. Its not that I do not want to be with him and his daughter is pretty good. She is 2. I just feel since I already feel this way this early in the relationship, its best to get out now. I told him i was past the disciplining and diaper hanging and bed wetting and not sleeping stages. I know how this poor girls future is going to be....and I just don't have to dedication to put towards her like i would like too. Her mother is o methadone and recently was not allowed to take it home -means something was in her system that should not have been- :? causes nothing but problems and in a few years i can see this turning out for the worst. I feel kind of relieved but sad because he is a really good guy..i just guess i put myself and my kids first.