Bio Dad Blaming Stepmom
Very frustrated with husband. When we first met I told him my career plans and that I would try to get us closer to his kids. He said he was okay with that and that he would always find a way to be with them. We went from living a plane ride away to a 4 hour drive away now. When we were a plane ride away, I paid for his plane tickets to see them because I felt guilty, paid for their christmas gifts, and even paid his child support twice. Before he met me, he was living with his mom and saw his son every weekend only because he would go over to his ex's house and spend all day at her place. I usually love children and I know this might be jealousy about BM, etc. But his son has no manners, blurts things out, and has his mother's way of ordering people around. Like he'll say "you can put some dressing on those vegetables" or last time he told me "This is my daddy's house!" Now when we argue, husband tells me that I'm the one interfering with their relationship and that I took him away from his son. He gets really angry when I don't want to "help" him anymore financially or be around his son at all. I want a child of my own so badly but having a child in this chaos just seems wrong. I'm sure to everyone, including husband, BM, and his son, I am the horrible woman who took dad away. Just wondering what step- parents think. Time to leave?
Oh hon, he's taking advantage
Oh hon, he's taking advantage of you. Sorry but I would not be in a relationship with an asshole who believes it's my JOB to provide plane tickets and whatnot for him. Ridiculous.
Thank you That is how it
Thank you
That is how it feels...like being leeched...
Even as a dude in a society
Even as a dude in a society where guys are expected to pay, I say leave his free loading ass. I don't believe any step parents owes any step child anything other than keeping them safe mentally and physically. If tommy needs socks, call ya parents!!
You should have left him with
You should have left him with his mommy.
Time to walk away. He wants an ATM not a Wife.
Get out now. This situation
Get out now. This situation is only going to get worse and if you have a child with him he will use that child against you in every way possible.
Give yourself the very best
Give yourself the very best present for Christmas - FREEDOM! Leave this loser today and never look back. You can do better! And darlin', there are millions of single men out there with NO children of twaty ex's who would love to have someone like you.
Leave!
Go. The last man on earth
Go. The last man on earth you want to be tied to via a child is this immature, selfish parasite. Hs kid might be bad. But he's worse. For Christmas give him the gift of freedom, hand him back to his child and his mommy. In return you will have the opportunity to meet and marry a real grown up, mature, responsible man to share your life and have children with. You will become someone's wife, instead of their mommy and benefactor. LET THIS LITTLE SPOILT SELFISH MOMMY'S BOY GO so you can have a happy and wonderful life. Having another child with him would be a huge mistake, you already have a child with him. HIM. He's not going to change. But you can. Let the creep go back to his mommy and his son, and thank God you don't have a baby with him.
I would leave. This life is
I would leave. This life is so NOT worth it if you don't have a marriage worth being in. The stress of the BM and skids is bad enough without the man who's supposed to be on your side fighting along side them. I'd say split before things get really tricky.
This guy doesn't want a wife.
This guy doesn't want a wife. Doesn't want a partner in life. He wants someone to look after him, he wants a mommy. No wonder his first marriage broke up.