You have an ex who is a disney dad. Sorry, I have no advice. Its hard to dictate what someone else does in their own home. My SO is a disney dad, I feel bad for BM sometimes trying to counteract the spoiling.

Do you know for sure if this is in fact how things are at the father's house or are you just assuming this is how it is? I think even if he is a disney dad children should be with a parent over any other type of child care. Sadly we have children with these men and we can't and don't have control over how they choose to spend their time with their kids. you can only control your home and the time you have. It took me 9 years of fighting this battle to realize that what my ex does and how he chooses to spend time with the children we had together is not my concern unless he is abusing them. It makes transitions hard when they back pack from houses with very different rules. And the kids are the ones who suffer but the child shouldn't be taken from his disney dad simply because he chooses to be a disney dad.

I can relate to that truebloodfreak, and I even live with my sons' dad. It's a constant job getting him to stimulate and nurture them rather than relying on screens to occupy their brains. Heartbreaking. Echo's idea is good, swap care with a better carer during most days in these formative years. don't want to be too negative but something to insist on in the kind of environment your ex lives in, is at the very least a parental controls internet filter and that shouldersurfing by adults goes on. In my experience if you put a little boy in the company of only older boys and computers, you will get a level of brutalisation and corruption.