Rude SS 18
SS18 graduated from high school last weekend. Photos were taken but when asked if he wanted a photo of me in it (with his dad) he said no. I suppose it's just him not wanting to make his mother upset (I get it) but I'm really ready for him to go to college. I'm so tired of his crap attitude that when we are in the same room I want to scream. Generally, I just go in the bathroom and flip him off a few times. Childish but it helps.
He or his brother 13 never said or did anything on Mother's Day either. You would think after nearly 10 years they could put in a little effort. Biomom ruined all that by poisoning them so she feels better about her lonely life.
I tell my SO that there are truly amazing women in the world that can do a stepmoms job and love it. That's not me. I thought it would get easier but it never has. It's actually gotten much worse. I guess I just need to do more things alone for my sanity.
I'm sitting at my desk
I'm sitting at my desk enjoying that little dream...aahhhhhh. Thanks! I needed that.
He is getting ready to leave
He is getting ready to leave for school soon. So you'll get a bit of a break there.
Honestly 18yo boys can be mouthy, rude, inconsiderate poopheads to almost everyone, so I wouldn't take it too personally...altho nothing in this particular post hit me as any of those things anyway.
I don't expect to get anything from the skids for mother's day--they have a mother and it is not me. Pics with a skid and me? Rare as a rainbow-farting unicorn.
If the father hasn't required
If the father hasn't required his sons to be respectful for the past ten years, then it's no surprise that the 18 yo is a turd. Hope you don't plan on spending any $$ on a grad gift.
It's been an experience to
It's been an experience to say the least. Lots of daddy guilt and Disneyland dad displays. It's better with my SO now but both kids will barely talk and NEVER NEVER NEVER ask questions about much of anything. Certainly not anything that pertains to my life.
I know exactly what occurred in my childhood that made me get into this situation all those years ago. Now it's just dogged determination. I would tell any woman with doubts that you should listen to your soul and get out. Find a man that can devote himself to just you. Maybe if I had done that I would have had my own baby. That's no longer an option.
The SS18 needs to leave for college tomorrow. He needs that life kick in the ass!!! I'm just not sure how to make food for 65 and clean and do all the party prep for such a jerk. He pouts and carries on like a toddler. What bothers me so much is that I would not have gotten away with that or would I want to. I was doing a lot of work for my parents when I was 18. He's probably still in bed.
You can't fix this and it is
You can't fix this and it is not worth the effort to try IMHO. I would inform DH that once SS-18 leaves for college he is not welcome in your home ever again unless..... he adheres to a firm standard of behavior and .... DH enforces it like a death row prison guard.
End of discussion. No quarter, no compromise, ever.... PERIOD!
Any snark from this rude pseudo adult and he is out immediately.
As for the party. Tell his father to Order Pizza!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He has made no effort to be pleasant, why should you make any effort at all. He is an 18yo not an 18mo old. Time for him to live the consequences of his decisions and behaviors.
Next time he asks you for
Next time he asks you for anything, simply tell him No, you'd prefer not. Thanks.