I have tried seeking advise elsewhere but all I ever get is negative responses so I figured maybe here some of you could somewhat relate. I have known my DH for about 2 years but we only started dating in June of 2012 after his BM went to jail (they were never married) I know he was never happy with her and only stayed as long as he did because of his son and when she went away he pursued me and things were perfect until she got out of jail after serving only 30 days. I have severe jealousy issues for some reason, I think maybe because she has given him a child and I feel that they have a bond that we don't, and I beat myself up over the fact that once we do have a child that everything will be a first for me but he has already been through it so I feel like it wont be as special for him as it will be for me. My SS is only 2 and will be 3 in may. One of my few issues when he is here (every other weekend) is that I feel my husband never includes me in any activities they do or anything, its like he just pushes me away...I have asked him about it and he says he just misses his son when he is away which is understandable but I feel like since I am his wife and I will always be in the picture that I should also be included in things, maybe not everything but I don't always want to be left out and he doesn't understand that. Another issue I have is the co-sleeping. While my SS is at his moms he sleeps in his own bed...My husband and I are TTC so bedtime is "our time" but when his son is here he wants to sleep in bed with us...I don't understand why he cant sleep in his own bed here if that is what he does at his moms we have tried putting him in his own bed but he tosses and turns and whimpers all night long and keeps us awake. He does the same while he is in bed with us but he is a lot less quiet but he kicks me and punches and it just drives me crazy!! I can not stand sleeping in bed with a child and when I say something he gets so mad at me so idk how to go about handling it. Also in my opinion BM is a piece of shit, she is a convicted felon, she is always trying to pawn her son off for any little reason, she is constantly calling wanting him to come stay with us and sometimes its for a week at a time and I feel like he shouldn't jump everytime she wants to get rid of him. I understand he has just as much of a obligation to him as she does but she needs to realize she cant just expect us to get him everytime she wants us to and always expect us to cancel any plans we have just because she cant deal with her child. I wish we could just take him from her and things would be so much easier!!