I can't have kids. I came to accept it and deal with questions and comments about it. I have dated men with kids but it never got serious. My best friend and I lived together and her two kids. It was awesome and her kids were well behaved and kind. I met my current boyfriend, who has two boys who happen to be the same ages as my nephews! I thought it would be good and that it would be a chance to have the family unit that I thought I wouldn't have.

Boy was I wrong! Almost immediately the oldest ss10 was hateful and rude. Our first outing shopping he repeatedly told me not to spend all his dads money and asked if we had to go everywhere I wanted to go. (I have a career and make good money, I don't ask my boyfriend to buy me things)

I thought it would get better. It hasn't with ss10. Ss8 was a handful at first but has warmed up to me, we have a mutual respect for each other and I would classify our relationship as good. Ss10 on the other hand gets progressively worse every visit. He does things because he knows he's irritating me.

In the year that I've lived with my bf, the sk's mom has never once talked to me or even had introductions. The sks show up in dirty smelly clothes, soiled underwear, brown socks that were originally white. Ss10 will not eat anything that's not a corn dog or ramen, yet I constantly find him chewing on random things off the floor (plastic bottle caps, a spool of thread, you name it) he claims he has "texture issues" and the home cooked food I make is "disgusting". Ss8 loves the food I cook. 

ss10 gets up in the middle of the night and tries to get into stuff (chewy vitamins, multiple bottles of water, anything that's not real food) he picked the fake leather off the arm of the couch about the size of a basketball. He hits his brother and starts fights for no reason. 
 

My bf is disconnected and doesn't seem to care what they do when they're here. He doesn't make them clean up after themselves. He doesn't hold them accountable for their actions. I do. I bought them a nice Christmas last year and have their tablets on my account. So when they're out of hand I turn off their tablets for an hour. Ss10 cries the fakest sobs ever.

I guess I just don't know how much more of ss10 I can take. He is smart. He gets good grades. But he acts like a 3 year old. I don't get it! I could go on but this is so long. I just don't know how to get through to him and I'm at the point I want to disengage completely and stop financially providing all the entertainment in the house for an ungrateful horrible human being.