Hi I'm new here so I won't use all the abbreviations as I'm sure to mess them up. A little background on my relationship, my boyfriend and I met and instantly fell hard for one another, then four months into the best relationship of my life, a women showed up at our door with an infant belonging to my boyfriend. He had no idea the child existed, she had told him she had an abortion which resulted in the relationship ending. My SD is now four. So when we got the news our relationship continued for several weeks until after much discussion and heartbreak on both our parts, I decided to step away as I had no intention of standing in the way of what could be a family. The next nine months were rough with the BM moving back in but my boyfriend and I still talked and saw each other occasionally. Finally, we decided to give it another try our 3 year anniversary is coming up this summer. At first I was o.k. with adjusting to him having his daughter for apprx. 12 days a month. Later that year BM gave up and granted him guardianship so she has pretty much been here full time ever since. At first it was an o.k. adjustment, still difficult considering all we had been through in the past year. At least at this point he was still making an effort to make me feel important.The following year I moved to a city nearly 5 hours away to continue my education, the two of them came down on his days off, he works shift work so we still spent the same amount of time together. That summer I stayed home to look after my SD. Which was difficult for me as I couldn't work and have always been financially independent. Slowly it has felt like he puts less and less effort into our relationship and I know and understand that I will never be his first priority but I am beginning to feel like I am no longer a priority at all. I recently returned from school and we agreed that I would not be the primary caregiver for my SD this summer as I had a great deal of to prepare for graduate studies. However, our babysitter fell through and he assumed that i would have no problem dropping everything in my life to come to his aid. Now, that being said I have no problem helping out but there are limits and I hate the fact that he has made my priorities and my responsibilities seem like nothing. I understand from a logical perspective that his daughter will always come first and that is how it should be as BM is barely involved but is still very clear on the fact the she is mom. However, it is still hard to deal with. I just feel trapped and alone I can't talk to him about because I am constantly accused of being resentful so he never hears what I'm actually trying to say, never listens to my perspective,or how I feel. To top it all off I will need to move next year to continue my education and BM's parents will fight tooth and nail to keep my SD here. I can't give up my education because I will be resentful and he can't leave with his daughter (nor would I ever ask that of him) so we don't even know if we have a future. Just feeling alone and like I have no one to talk to that will understand my perspective...