Drop off
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it is our weekend (we are EOW) my SO offered to pick up fSD7 on the way home from work at 6. BM says oh I’ll save you a trip and drop her off this time. It’s now after 8:00 and fSD7 is nowhere to be found.
Last night on the phone she said she wanted spaghetti and meatballs for dinner tonight, so I was in the kitchen starting at 5 pm making homemade meatballs. Now they are sitting cold and I’m starving waiting for her to get here to eat.
idk why I let this stuff get to me so much. I know as she gets older it can only get worse...
Sweet of you to make homemade
Sweet of you to make homemade meatballs for her but do not let your schedule revolve around her (or rather, her BM). Eat.
Next time, SO will know to just get her himself and not count on BM.
My DH did ALL of the pick ups and drop offs. A pain, sometimes, yes, but it really worked out for the best, since BM is psycho and a bitch. She once moved a couple of hours away and told DH she would meet him halfway for his weekends. Yeah, sure ya will.
Update it’s now 9 pm. Being
Update it’s now 9 pm. Being only 7, fsd’s bedtime is 9:30. Really nice that my SO will get quality time with his daughter tonight.
Its all a BM Scheme
Passive aggression. Try to appear cooperative then pull a back stabbing move. Sadly, typical.
Never hold dinner for a skid,
Never hold dinner for a skid, Microwave a plate if need be.
Stick to the CO and don't make exceptions anymore. BM thinks for some reason its ok to treat your house with disrespect. Her doing that will teach SD its ok to do it too. Is that what you want to deal with????
BM is intruding on parenting time with the other parent. Plain and simple. Either he stands up for himself now or you are looking at being frustrated and hanging out on this board all the time.
Yep. They (DH/SO) always have
Yep. They (DH/SO) always have to learn the hard way to always stick to the custody orders. It's so easy for them to think "oh this would be so much easier, lets agree to it" and then BOOM every time it blows up in their face because a Golden Uterus is a Golden Uterus and making things "easier" is never their goal. Personally, my DH would have been knocking on BMs door if she was any more than 15 minutes late and hadn't given him a heads up.
About the dinner though, that was nice of you....spaghetti is also one of my favorite meals but even the best resturants around can't beat my grandmother's. I used to believe that people should always hold true to their character and do good unto others regardless of reciprication. Then steplife happened and the saying "no good deed ever goes unpunished" slapped me in my face over and over again. I wouldn't suggest you hold up eating for skid in the future. She is late, she is old enough to tell her mom she is suppose to be at her dads, her dad is old enough to get in contact with BM about where his child is, you are old enough to see that waiting an hour passed dinner time to eat was ridiculous. I will advise you to try not to let it bother you because we all know that is what BM wants out of this...but I say this knowing that its going to bother me as well when SS's teen years start over here too. I will be among your kind....not cooking dinner for him, but still frustrated when DH gets screwed out of his time.
Time to eat, pitch the
Time to eat, pitch the leftovers and never again hold your own dinner for them.
If my dad, my brother or I had done this to our mom after she had prepared a meal with the family there would have been hell to pay.