Like a woody Allen movie
So dh and I have parted company until Thurs night.
I am feeling down a bit.
Who calls? Dh telling me he wants to give me a heads up that he is inviting MY FATHER to attend this big event tomorrow with his daughters!! Because his own father is not due to some health concern. I felt like saying " and I am the only one who went for NINE years straight.....at great hardship some yrs as I had three kids and their schedules. ".
Honestly many years one or both parent of his would back out.
My initial reaction was no, I don't want his daughters to know anything about me or my family anymore. My dad has Parkinson's and it would be more than my dad could handle but he would go if my dh insisted.
I called up my dad and gave him a heads up.
So much drama.
Sorry that you're feeling
Sorry that you're feeling blue tonight. Your father might enjoy the experience --- happy to get out and pleased to be invited. My SO's father (98 yrs) attends things, misses the who/what/why and fatigues easily, but he is happy to be doing something.
Life is not fair. Relationships are not fair. Sounds as if your "perceived marriage" has nothing to do with the reality. You are not alone on this. Looking back, I can honestly say that I was in one marriage and my ex-DH was in another --- side-by-side. Wierd.
Hashing and rehashing this relationship is wasting years of your life. What are you going to do about it?