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Well,,,,,here we go !!!

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Submitted by Sweetnothings on Fri, 07/22/2011 - 2:46pm

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Well, here I am again......
It's Friday, SD21's arrival is only hours away ( younger Skid arriving too )...... I am so angry, tired and stressed at the moment.
It looks like my little "red tape" problem about staying here ,will have to be sorted out back home, so it looks like I am looking at maybe two weeks or so away and I HAVE to leave next Friday, the Skids go back late Thursday( only here in our house for 3 days, we are away for 3) , so I will have one day with DH on our own before I leave.

I really do not think DH understands just how upsetting ALL of this is, he is happy happy that his kids are coming, he has been over nice to me, and has not been making any comments about their visit, like he is scared to mention it. Anyway, I had a calm talk again with him last night, I told him I am about to explode with stress and IF he is not stepping up to parent this visit, then we will be in trouble. We discussed the Internet, it will be turned off when we go to bed, we have had a lot of bills and so WE agreed that SD21 will NOT be replacing her wardrobe, shoes, etc on a shopping spree care of Daddy, there will be a little spending money but that's it ( enough for a Tee Shirt, a souveneir or two ) AND that HE will explain this to them both if there are problems..... I live in hope this will be the case......

I think SD21 thinks her arrival is going to be like Cleopatra's arrival in Rome( remember from the Elizabeth Taylor movie?? Youtube it, it's OTT drama ) with of course, DH as one of her willing slaves.....hmmmmm.... I see it more like little Ralph from the Simpsons playing with a hanky on his head !!!! Yes, she looks like him, short, dumpy, and ANNOYING!!! Sorry, if I sound bitchy, my I don't care a toss ran off a very long time ago !!!

So....here we go !!!!

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Submitted by sandye21 on Sat, 07/23/2011 - 4:26pm

StepAside, you hit the nail on the head: "But she knows, and you know, that you aren't a fan. And everyone will expect you to remain silent about it, and be an adoring spectator." How many of us have gone through this same scenario - the phoney adoration BS, being silently and sweetly invisible, both knowing that we detest each other. I remember almost 6 months ago, shortly after saying enough is enough that DH called her (not in my presence, of course) to tell her she was not allowed in this house unless she apologized to me and gave me respect in my own home. He turned to me and sobbed, “It's hard for a Father to discipline his Daughter.” Puke! Then he related how his Daughter had gushed that she really liked me. Like you said, we both KNEW we didn't like each other. This time I quit playing the game. I replied, “That is BS – she doesn't like me and I don't like her.” Disengagement is kind of nice.

Sweetnothings, you should not have to pay for ANYTHING for SD. Let if come out of DH's money only. Is there ant way you can temporarily disengage from the “Daaaddddy” and SD during SD's stay? Maybe get engrossed in a new book, suddenly feel ill? Stick to your guns about spending so much money on SD. Good luck to you.