Still shaking
It's not ending. My mother(??) called this morning and left voicemail that if she was not able to speak with my father within the hour she was calling local police and meeting them at my home. Because I had blocked her, the message only appeared as a blocked message. I listened to it late in the day. No answer at home. I left work and pulled up to my house just as police pulling into my driveway. Of course my brother called. Second time in 5 days! Clearly using welfare checks to harass me. Father, husband and adult kids came to door from the dinner table to joke about it. Cop was very nice but said they can't refuse a check.
Tomorrow we are all at work. My father sleeps a lot. I am so fearful what if I'm not home? Will they break my door down? Shoot my dogs? I've never felt so vulnerable.
I called a couple family law lawyers. No call backs.
Can you file a restraining
Can you file a restraining order against them?
I am so sorry this is
I am so sorry this is happening.
While the police may not refuse a welfare check, they have been to you house once and have seen that everything is fine, so I would not worry about them breaking down the door. If they come and no one answers, they most likely will leave and come back later.
Try to get some rest. You should be able to talk to a lawyer tomorrow and get advice on how to proceed. (And I know the advice will not be giving her the money she wants.)
I’m posting my cell number
On my front door. I don't want them breaking in and for sure my dogs will get loose and get killed or lost.
I no longer refer to the b that birthed me as my mother. I refer to her as her first name.
today had been the first day I could focus at work. I'm just walking around with anxiety. Feeling a loss of control.
The police are not going to kick in the door for a
The police are not going to kick in the door for a welfare check. That being said, go ahead and be proactive. Call and talk to a supervisor and let them know what is going on. They should be able to flag your address so the information will come up if they get another call to your house.
You really need to get a restraining order against this woman.
Also ask the supervisor how
Also ask the supervisor how many dud wellness checks they can request before they're charged with wasting police time ...
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That's what the officer said.
I'm sorry to hear that. It
I'm sorry to hear that. It looks as if getting a restraining order on them might be your only chance at peace. Have you talked to a lawyer yet?
Yes!
I think this is where things are headed. Their house used to be in trust with the two kids as trustees. Due to my brother's financial black hole and bankruptcy my parents chsnged to me as sole trustee. My brother found this out and went ballistic. I don't think she wants house sold but she is desperate for more money.
They won't break into your
They won't break into your house - they can't, without good cause. I assume your father is capable of answering the door? Put your dogs in a closed room when you leave to ease your worry, if dad won't be home, or even board them or leave them with a friend. But it's past time to get a restraining order on your mother and brother. The police don't like to have their time wasted, and they will be onto this pattern quickly, especially if you are in an area with a small police force. Alerting them can't hurt either.
Also, if you have a good boss, tell him/her what is going on and get some time off to deal with this.
Sorry
You must be so stressed.
As others have suggested, can you go and talk to the local police about the situation? Do you have a local representative/politian who can help? They have ties to the local authorities and know about local agencies who might be able to help. (Completely different but I got great help from local politian's about a development someone was trying in our building.)
Can your father file a
Can your father file a restraining order/harassment order? Or you do it for him (Not familiar with your story)…
This happened to a patient of mine, who wanted nothing to do with her parents (She was over 18). They kept filing false well being checks. She told the police she was fine and wanted nothing to do with her parents. Finally, cops got sick of her parents and told them that they would be charged with filing false police reports. That seemed to stop them at the time (Haven’t seen this patient in a while)….Hope this helps!
file for a restraining order.
file for a restraining order. go in now, it's a pain in the buttocks but you need to do it asap.
Police will not bust down
Police will not bust down your door as others have stated. I would contact the local PD and let them know the situation and have them call you should they get a welfare check for your father again. We used to get welfare checked from Meth Mount and the PD stopped coming by and would only make a log note.
File NOW
Don't play with this. Get to the courthouse and file a restraining order against your mother and brother. Do this for yourself and your father. Call elderly services immediately to help protect your father. Get your evidence in order (texts, voice mails, notorized statements from witnesses who've they've contacted and terrorized. When you say you are worried they will "kill" you for the money....take that thought seriously. Again, DO NOT PLAY WITH THIS MESS. These people are dangerous.
Restraining order needs to name your father and your household.
The restraining order needs to name your father and your household. The next thing she is going to do is come after you and claim you are the one trying to control your father and his money. Your father also needs an attorney - maybe family law, but also look into one who specializes in senior citizens - you might check with some estate law attorneys.
I agree with all the above
I agree with all the above advice. Get in touch with Victim Services in your area. You are now victims of harrasment and threats. Don't wait for them to do something. Be proactive. Call the police and let them know that you are the one living in fear and you need help. Ask them to refer you to an organization that could help you deal with this. Just make some calls until you hit the right one who can help you. Hang in there....