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Submitted by NoraAstepmom on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 12:15am

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I understand this forum is for a lot of us to be able to come and vent our problems, on dealing with blended family's. Sometimes some of us will come on here and vent about other things. We come here to look for advise on how to either make things better, or for someone who has had the experience. I have noticed a few that get upset when you tell them like it is. I come here for the TRUTH. I don't expect anyone to sugar coat anything. This forum has helped me become a better person and to be more understanding. I'm not here to judge anyone, BUT I will call it as I see it. If you cant handle that well it is what it is. I stopped feeling sorry for myself awhile back after coming to this site and reading the story's on here. I read and tried to understand and to try and not take what happens with the step kids to personal anymore. I didn't raise them, I'm not the one that hurt them. The only thing I did was get married. Perfect I'm far from it. But coming on here I'm learning.

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Submitted by browsing2013 on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 12:56am

Ive been reading on this page for awhile now but you are one of the reasons I wouldn't ever post. I saw your comments earlier and dont think this is the place to beat people down. I wish she had reported you instead of leaving. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. You dont have to sugarcoat anything. Sad Maybe it's just late and you hit a sore spot, but it might be time for me to be supportive after everything Ive read here. Take some lessons from the kind people here.

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Submitted by NoraAstepmom on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 1:11am

Because I told the truth. I don't feel I have ever been mean to anyone on here ever. I call it as I see it. Report me for what for being honest. Are you telling me that this site that we are not to be honest. If she left that's her choice its because I called it like I see it. If what I said wasn't the truth then why did she take down the posts . How do I also know that you are not her I mean you just became a member 20 min ago. Maybe I hit the sore spot. I come her for the honesty weather its good or bad.

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Submitted by NoraAstepmom on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 1:13am

Also the posts were not even up long enough for anyone to read because she or you deleted it.

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Submitted by browsing2013 on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 1:55am

dh had gone to bed and I was reading the newer post on the left of the page here. So you were at the top. I just read the whole post and felt sorry for the girl. I dont think kharma and you get what you deserve is something you should say to someone hurting. Ive been on both sides of the fence. not trying to be mean, but you called her storie a lie. yeah, i just joined. I should have 30 min earlier. That girl needed help. you were the only one mean to her from what I read. how was that supportive at all? we all have different stories. I'll be careful about what I post here.

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Submitted by NoraAstepmom on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 2:11am

browsing........

Your right maybe you only read what you wanted to read. I also think you are her coming on with a new login id. I find it funny that you became a new member right after the post, also she and I were the only ones posting. I'm not here to hurt anyone, If we are not here to tell the truth good or bad then what is the point of being on this site. I also never said her story was a lie. I said maybe she was bored. I still think you are her. I only stated by what she wrote.

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Submitted by NoraAstepmom on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 2:17am

Also Browsing.....

I have also been on both sides of the fence. That's why I responded to the post. You don't have to be care full of your posts. Its why people come here to get support and for the people to be honest with there posts don't you agree.

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Submitted by NoraAstepmom on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 2:37am

Also browsing or who ever you are

You can go back and read any of my posts I have never been mean to anyone on here.

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Submitted by 20YearsAsAStep-Mom on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 6:01am

Was it the poster who lived in the small town who had the affair? She sounded terribly depressed and really needed help.

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Submitted by 20YearsAsAStep-Mom on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 9:40am

Lol me too. did nothing but improve SD and DH life 20 years ago and got crucified for it.

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Submitted by missshasta2000 on Sat, 08/17/2013 - 10:22am

I just found this site recently. I Love it. I can vent and get other peoples feelings on the issues I am having. I wouldn't want people to just agree and say everybody else is in the wrong. Sometimes it helps to have a outsider to give their point of view to make you look at situations more clearly. If I am wrong I would rather have someone give me a honest opinion instead of sugar coating it.

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Submitted by LadyG on Fri, 08/23/2013 - 8:37am

Please come here and vent! We are all in the same boat in some form or fashion as step parents however keep religion out of this. There are two things I don't talk about in public, religion and politics. I know what I believe and that is that.

People are generally pissed off because their DH/DWs won't step up to the plate as far as raising children that have no respect for anything, material things, people, whomever. I've come to the sad conclusion that stupid people shouldn't breed and I know that sounds harsh, however, divorce is not an easy thing and people tend to fight like UFC contenders. Humanity and common sense are overtaken by anger, resentment, frustration, pain, desperation and rage. I've been divorced twice-both exes were mentally abusive to me and I will admit, because of my childhood, I have a "distorted" vision on what a good man is/was, if that makes any sense.

People have different opinions and will only tell you what they've been through. Some advice is good, some is not so good however, the main thing here is we will support you and empathize with you. A whole lot of us have been there, done that, got the scars, got the divorce and are now away from the trauma of being a step parent to skids who couldn't give a ***t if we lived or died. They don't want their parent happy, they want their family back together.

No matter what, we are here for you.

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Submitted by Bdmnrizn on Wed, 08/28/2013 - 4:09am

I havent been on here for awhile and am glad I missed all this, because I dont know whats going on, but I really enjoy this site So tell it like you see it and tell it how it feels, sometimes people need a little wake up call.