Hi. I have had the strangest couple of weeks. I accidentally found my bd's bank card in my sd's purse. I kicked a bag on the floor of her room out of the way when I was painting and the bank card fell out. I was shocked to see it was my daughter's card. I left it alone thinking it would be returned right away - no such luck. so, finally 10 days after my bd's announcement that her bank card is missing - I didn't tell her where i last saw it - suddenly the sd sends her a text message announcing that somehow she's got the bank card but has no idea how she got it. My bd's digital camera went missing at the same time, and by some miracle it turned up too...so I finally asked the sd today if there was something we should talk about. she looked suprised. i asked how she ended up with the bd's bank card. she claimed she had no idea she had it blah, blah, blah. when i asked about the camera suddenly being found in a place I had looked for it a number of time...she asked me if I was accusing her of stealing it. i told her i wasn't accusing her of anything - just that something strange and unsettling was going on and i was uncomfortable with it.

background on this relationship...my husband will defend his daughter to the death on any issue. he specifically instructed me to not say anything because his daughter just wouldn't do anything like this - it hadn't been his experience with her...she doesn't lie etc. There was no proof that she took the items and she would be devastated to know that i suspected she took the items (SD is 20 years old)

now it's all out there - except my husband doesn't know i said anything YET and the sd...hasn't come home since the talk.

now what do i do?