She's Back and has the Gaul.....
Well, we knew she was to be back in town to get ready to leave for Boot Camp yesterday but she has the gaul not to tell us. SD18 came back into town telling us off earlier this month that she wasn't going to have anything to do with us. Well now she had her srgt of the army call us for her Birth Certificate which I remember my DH giving her. She's lost it it looks like so don't know what will happen. She's back staying at a motel with her HS (Biatch) HSB! Her HS is the one that is encouraging her to not keep in contact with us and has poisoned this child's mind. Don't know what to do if anything at all. We are NOT going to call her because we do not want to see HSB. HS wants to play mama well, she can do that. But don't expect us to bend backwards for her or SD.
I'm so conflicted with anger and love at the same time. I wish she was leaving here under better circumstances but will not play her games. HS has done a good job at letting this child hate us so.
What do we do?
Just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.
Her mother has passed but her
Her mother has passed but her father is with me. She won't even call him or talk to him because of HSB. She's controlling that child to the core. Go figure!!!!
She will find out that we're
She will find out that we're not going to bend for her, but ...
Yeah, but she deploys for
Yeah, but she deploys for boot camp next Monday and won't have it ontime. LOL. That's my dilemna. Do I search for it and see if I have a copy or let her be. My guess is to let her be. She doesn't want anything to do with us, she can fend for herself. LOL
She wants her independence
She wants her independence from you two, give it to her! Let her find out what grown ups do when they need something. My mother is 84 years old. If I needed a copy of my birth certificate, would I call her for it? Hell, no!
First off, I would never do something for somebody who thought they were too good (or I was too bad) to get on the phone themselves and personally make a request. That's such BS and totally P/A!
What has she done for you or your DH lately (if ever)?! Screw her.
Exactly. She posted on FB
Exactly. She posted on FB that she told us off and felt good about it. That's what she's done for us. Nadda. I'm going to do the same back. Nadda. Let her not go and drive 5 hours back and forth by herself or should I say with HSB. I am not going out of my way.
I'm going to encourage DH to do the same. Hope he follows me.
Will let you all know!
yeah, I'm coming to that
yeah, I'm coming to that realization. The only problem is DH got her BC and went and brought it to the army office. We want her out out out of our lives and for him this is one way to get her gone. No reason for her to stick around if she's gone in the army. I pray she gets deployed somewhere just so she can see what life really is all about. I'm not holding my breath for her.
Oh well, another life lesson learned.
Yes, he took the high road
Yes, he took the high road but I'm still not happy. Anyway, she even called him because the rest of the family are tooooooo busy to see her this week since there's company from Brazil here and they don't have time for her. Yippeee. But she calls him asking him to take her out to lunch. DUH!!!! First of all, he's sick as ever so he said to call back in a few days. I asked him if she apologized, he said nope. And he doesn't expect her to after the way she talked to us. Well, I told him that if he wants, we can all go out to dinner, this way I'll confront her about apologizing to her father. I don't care if she doesn't apologize to me, (in some ways) but her father. That's another story. So ... I said we can pick her up at the hotel, where she's staying with HSB which I refuse to be around and so does DH, then we can go to Golden Corral and then drop her off. I have no intention of spending more time that that with her. Even her army recruiter told her off and told her that she only has one father and she needs to respect him. DUH!!!!!
Doubt that will happen but we'll see how it goes after army training. This will be interesting cause she can't have any contact with HSB for 10 weeks either. LOL, LOL. Hehehehe. Doing the happy dance for that.
Will keep you all posted.
StepAside, You are so right.
StepAside,
You are so right. DH bends at her request. She called him today and told me that what she posted on FB was towards me and that I mistreated her in the emails I sent. Well, she was the one that told me to take a hike and didn't want anything to do with us now in this lifetime or any other. She pointed that out to both of us. So I sent her the emails back and told her to stop lying and that I didn't say anything mean to her. I was cordial and nice to her and she was the one that spewed the ugliness. Well, DH got all over me for doing that. For telling her off. I even went so far as to tell her to grow up then re-emailed her and apologized for that to keep peace with DH. Tonight he's all over me like a wet blanket saying well, she's got the maturity of a 14 year old ... don't they all.
Anyway, I got in trouble with him. So he can do as he wants while she's here but I'm not going to meet with her. I refuse to put myself in that position of her treating me like crap and her thinking she can get away with it. If he's willing to let her treat him like that then that is his problem. He keeps saying, well, she's leaving in a few days and will be out of our hair, but that's not the point. She will eventually be in contact again and it will still be the same thing. I am the garbage and he's the savior. Go figure. I'm over it girl. I'm just all over it!
No,both are decisions were
No,both are decisions were not to see her, but she called and asked to see Daddy for lunch. I told Daddy that if he's going to see her that I'm going too, so wait till I'm off work and I'll go with ya'all. He agreed but he said it wouldn't be for a few days because he's too sick right now.
Good idea. I'll keep my mouth shut and let her dig her own hole. Then she can act like the BWitch that she is.
Thanks for the advice guys. I'll keep you all posted.
Yup, that's what we are
Yup, that's what we are intending on doing. If only her HS would stay out of the mix it would be better but she's poisoned SD greatly. She's let SD read emails that passed between daddy & mama years ago when they were fighting so he could even try to see his daughter. Mama never let him see his daughter so she grew up thinking daddy didn't care and yet everything points to his trying by emailing and fighting. She doesn't see it that way naturally cause she's seeing things through a child's mind and not an adult who wants their kid.
Anyway, HS let her read emails and letters, etc that were none of her business. Go figure. HS has been a thorn in our side. HS is mama's kid not my DH's. That's why I call her HSB.
Anyway, SD can go spend all her time with her if she wants. We are working on keeping our marriage together despite her. I have other SK's from DH and I get along just great with them. So, it's just SD that is having an issue. SS33 is great with me. I get along with him just dandy and his wife and the grandbabies. So I concentrate on those I do get along with and not those I don't. LOL
Good for you too, to take on such a grown up attitude. I'm trying and it's hard at times but I manage pretty well. She gets under my skin because she lived with us till this last month or so ago. Was hard cause she was so irresponsible and lazy, mouthy, attitude, etc. NOw I don't have to deal with any of that. Yahoooo!!!!
Thanks again.