Problem with the wills?
Today DH and I went to his UAW lawyer to review and agree to our wills. I left the place refusing to sign, requested to bring the unsigned copies home to review for changes. I was noticeably upset but explained that this was not what I was expecting. The main problem- A line that says'I have prepared or may prepare a written list either in my hand writing or signed by me to dispose of certain tangible personal property to certain persons.[examples included boats ,china,books,furniture , vehicles,garden equipment and so on.] Each of us left our own children beneficiaries of our pre marriage belongings. Those items do not have to go thru probate or mentioned in the will. Everything we have was accumulated by us , mostly second hand, and has no business falling into outsiders hands. Meant to sustain our lives,our yard,our rentals, our household. All the children are middle-age. We have been married 13 yrs. He was divorced from ex over 30 yrs. ago. I was widowed when mine were young. My concern is to not have a list show up should something happen to him. I do not trust SD's ,do not want a list to appear for any reason that causes anything to be removed from the household. These are people who do not like me, do not in any way associate with me, and will not be in any way concerned with my grief. I told DH before I expect the will to state all property to go to the survivor. He read the wills and was ready to sign. How have others handled this. All houses are in survivorship deeds between us.
OLD DART, MY CONCERN IS THAT
OLD DART, MY CONCERN IS THAT WITH HIS FAMILY A LIST MAY APPEAR LATER TO BE DISPUTED IF IT IS EVEN AUTHENTIC.
Been here once (widowed
Been here once (widowed early) and it can get ugly. Make the list and attach it to the will. I guarantee you these kids will come out of the woodwork to take what they feel entitled to. Recently, my uncle was on his second marriage and his new wife found out after a year of marriage that she had lung cancer. She lay dying and her kids came to visit, well later he realized all his glasses were gone from the kitchen. They just took them. He finally told them, those were not hers, those were from his first marriage. More of this happened with her jewelry and ultimately things were really ugly at that funeral. He let them take everything of hers, but they all just handled it really poorly.
MUSTANG- I LEFT A PRE MARITAL
MUSTANG- I LEFT A PRE MARITAL HOME IN TRUST TO MY CHILDREN. HE LEFT HIS RETIREMENT SAVINGS TO HIS CHILDREN. THEN WE GOT MARRIED 13 YRS. AGO. NOW I FEEL THAT WHAT WE HAVE, WE HAVE STRUGGLED AND BUILT TOGETHER. WE LIVE COMFORTABLY ON PENSION AND RENTAL INCOME. I FEEL EVERYTHING WE HAVE ACCOMPLISHED IN THE 13 YRS. SHOULD GO TO THE OTHER ON DEATH. THIS CLAUSE IN THE WILL LEAVES ME FEELING UNEASY BECAUSE NO ONE NEEDS TO GET ANYTHING MORE. IF THERE WAS SOME SENTIMENTAL THING TREAT ME NICE AND ASK ME AFTER HIS DEATH . DH 'S DAUGHTERS HAVE NOT HAD AN HONEST INTERACTION WITH ME IN ALL THE TIME I HAVE KNOWN THEM. HE AND EX DIVORCED OVER 30 YRS. AGO SO IT IS NOT AS IF THEY HAVE ANYTHING SENTIMENTAL TO COLLECT. THEY SEE HIM 1 TIME A YR. CAN YOU GUESS WHAT HOLIDAY THAT IS??? AND THAT IS ONLY IF HE GOES TO THEIR HOUSE WHERE THEY ALL LIVE WITH THEIR CHILDREN AND THEIR MOM.