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Possibly petty but I don’t care

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Submitted by carlazep on Thu, 02/16/2017 - 4:05pm

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My husband ended up paying his parents for the cruise tickets they bought ss and his girlfriend. I don’t care anymore. I’ve just been keep my head down and applying for more jobs. The pizza delivery is only on weekends and it doesn’t pay too much.

If some of you recall, ss came over to our house uninvited and made a comment about how there were no photos of him. Well, last week I noticed that my husband had placed two frames of ss with the other photos on display.

I immediately took all the photos in the living area and dumped them in my closet in a bag. Now, no one can say anything.

It may be petty but I would rather have no photos then to see that face every day.

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Submitted by carlazep on Thu, 02/16/2017 - 4:15pm

I am not looking to leave my husband. But I want to work so I have my own money and I am kept busy mentally. My husband makes enough to support us but losing my business and basically becoming bankrupt really affected me badly.

My husband ended up paying for the trip just so his brother would leave him alone. His brother is just worried about his inheritance.

Thank you.

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Submitted by carlazep on Thu, 02/16/2017 - 4:29pm

I know. But what can I do? Everyone believes him. So is my husband just to be on the safe side. Every time I think of the injustice I get so angry and sad. I am trying to ignore his existence to save my own mental health.

It's very stressful to even see the money being given to ss when I pay the bills online.

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Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Thu, 02/16/2017 - 7:03pm

You married into a really unhealthy dynamic, Carla. And you're right - what can you do? You can't change it. So, better to just focus on yourself and investing in what will make you happy. Leave them to it.

BUT - I would insist that SS not be allowed in your home. You deserve a safe place.

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Submitted by jam on Sat, 02/18/2017 - 8:10am

Not petty at all. It is YOUR house and you can decorate it.

If SS can play the wounded child card and manipulate his dad into setting pictures of him in YOUR house then I would think it okay to remove ss's pictures and let him know that you do not decorate his house (which I am sure he does not have pictures of you and dh set out)and he will not be decorating yours.