Of course we are all Gold Diggers Harvey! Insert sarcasm here. Really it is not you and of course it hurts still.
I must be a Gold Digger too since for most of my 5 yr marriage to DH I have not worked a job. And since his YSd thinks I should get a job and so much as told DH that in her text war against me.

But since DH was recovering from a liver transplant when we married and I left my home and family to move two hours away from them to live with him and care for him, he didn't want me to have to work. So I could spent time on my artwork that I never had time for when I was raising my kids.

So I spent my time after we married planning and overseeing the building of our little home. We did all the painting ourselves. And all the landscaping.
And I sold my house a couple years later and have a little nest egg put aside. Which is now set up in only my name with my kids as beneficiaries ever since DH's D29 threatened to kill me in a text to him that he did not think necessary to share with me.

I too was sucked into the holiday gift buying for the skids. All the planning and buying and wrapping. Two of the three never reciprocated, always took but never even a small gift for their dad.
That is another story. See the Christmas in August rant I posted before.

Anyway. Don't be hurt by your ungrateful skid. Just take all that you used to lavish on her and be nice to yourself or maybe even a random homeless person or pet shelter.

As hard as our hearts want to become because of the horrible treatment of these skids to us don't let what she said about you define who you are and who you have always been. The fact that you were so nice to her for so long is to your credit of your character as a loving person. The fact that she lied about you to people at her school speaks volumes about her not you.
Now you know who she is. Believe her and move on with your life.

I know exactly how you feel. My SD18 just graduated from High school. I made sure she went to prom of which she threw in my face later that she didn't want to go and I forced her. Paid for her dress, makeup, hair, etc. out of my hard earned money. Not dad's but mine. Then I got her her yearbook, of which she is not getting unless she forks over the $60.00 now. I got her her cap and gown for her grad, etc. Did all of this for this ungrateful witch to turn around and cuss us out recently and go live with her HS (half-sister) before she leaves for boot camp in 2 weeks. She will see one day all the damage she has done and it won't be easy to win us back. Hang on to that thought. Ungrateful they are, but one day it will come back and bite them in the butt.

I'm anxiously waiting for that day and if it never comes, then I'm done with SD. There are no more Christmas', birthday's nothing from me. I don't give a rat's *ss about her anymore after she hurt her father and I the way she has. Her HS is her world, well, let HS provide everything for her and do everything for her. I've given up. HS is 14 years her senior so she is taking over the mothering role since mama passed away several years back. HS has done everything she can to badmouth us to SD and make us look like the villians. Fine. I'll let it go and I'll live my life like she was never there.

I wish you the best, but remember, we are all in the same boat with ungrateful kids. Just another day in the life of SMhood! YUK!!!! How I regret having married a man with kids.

"I thought, hell, if I wanted to be a gold digger I would actually pick someone who was worth digging. And toots, your daddy it aint it!!" Isn't THAT the truth! 'Mr. Wonderful DH' lied to me about his financial situtaion before we got married. One time one of the SILs had the nerve to assume I was going to leave my assets to SD - most of which had been earned prior to the marriage with DH. I asked SIL if she thought I was in SD's will? Then informed her what I had would probably go to charity. And this was after a weekend from hell with SD. It would be like giving a treat to a dog that just bit your lips off. No thanks! One thing that is a bit sad is that I do not plan on leaving anything to DH either - knowing that it might wind up in SD's hands.

The only thing they will get from me is cards, if that. I did my 20 years of gifting and I'm done. This is probably the last year I will buy gifts for the grandchildren. After that, it will be cards only. Having just got out of mediation, there is no way I'm a gold digger, yet that's what they think. I made more money than my husband did, yet they seem to believe he was wealthy. I'm done.

Guess who pays for your stupid little sorry asses while your dad pays your stupid BMs a shit ton of child support? Yes thats me. I put a roof over your stupid little heads and food in your stupid little stomachs while your dad pays child support.