I have 3 biological children and four step children- all are over 18 years. I have been married for 1 1/2 years, but have dated DH for 5 years before we eloped. Yes, eloped because DH said SD & SSs would have ruined the event.My SKs have become parasites. SD33 is an alcoholic with a preteen daughter (father is non citizen from Mexico & doesn't contribute $$$); she has bi-polar and depression issues which are excuses for her partying and bad choices. She lived with us for 4 yrs, and needs a different car every year because she abuses them. SS35 is hearing impaired, married with one child and asks for little or nothing. SS27 lives in the house that was to be sold in the divorce with his GF, 2 kids, her twin, twin's BF, child and GF's mother; GF's father also resided there w/o consent of DH when he was released from jail. GF's mother is an alcoholic. They have 4 dogs, 2 cats, rabbit, bird and what ever animals they want in a 1200 sq house; NO one pays rent or upkeeps the house. SS27 makes good money, GF on welfare also works under the table-feels entitled. SS30 used to leave in house with his GF and her 3 kids too. BM#1 is an alcoholic and BM#2 is a drug addict and stalker; both are unemployed. BM#2 gets $750 alimony which will run out in 6 months. Feels like a never ending season of Jerry Springer. Add to addict sister in law living with us for 6 months while we worked and she partied. Latter now applying for disability, as she's tired of working at 53, nothing wrong with her ability to work. DH makes a decent wage, and I have a low wage job. We provide the majority of stuff for the grandkids school supplies, clothes,etc... Our home is decorated like Martha Stewart's for the holidays. We host because the BMs don't put in any effort. It cost $$$$. This year I'm boycotting holidays. I hardly ever see my grandchildren, but SK have no problem knocking on the door for $$$$. I was accepted as the GF to entertain their father, and for me to spend my $$$ on the SKs and their children. SKs have called me a gold digger and everything in between. I was introduced to DH by SD33;I was her neighbor. DH & I went to look at a house in a neighboring state to get away. DH doesn't want to leave after he said we could buy the house. After reading all the problems with SKs & DHs, I want out. I invested my heart and my $$$ in this relationship. I mended the rifts caused by BMs and brought all 4 SKs and father together. I can't handle the disrespect. DH says when he dies I'll have enough money to buy a nice house. When DH dies SKs will fight me for every last $. I might add most of what we have has been acquired since we were together. DH was unemployed and homeless when I met him. DH is a fine man, intelligent, hardworking, funny, loving and compassionate. He watched his sisters suck the like from his parents living with and off them. He does understand adult parasite child syndrome. I can't live like this. SKs are irresponsible, living in the moment, and living a better lifestyle than we have. We are very frugal,price match, don't eat a lot of meats or eat out a lot, but the SKs do. I'm at a point where I do not care. If you spend your paycheck on booze, partying, weed then the natural consequence is that you wouldn't have $$$ for groceries or rent. It's not our job to supplement your poor choices. Life is short and I'm trying to build a simple life with DH, but SKs refuse to get off the teat. BMs are worthless, and have ruined the foundations of SKs, but SKs are adults now. So why can't they get it together? Part of me is optimistic but the other part says cut your losses and run ... run far away & don't look back. Tonight I'm feeling esp hurt as SS35 wrote a post about his family. He is the most grateful SK, but there was no mention of me or my children. It was I that took his wife to the hospital in the middle of the night, stayed with her, watched my grandson and paid for the stay because they had no insurance. It was I that once again came to the rescue in the middle of the night to gather his wife and son and drive to tenbucktwo when he was in a serious car accident. It is I ensured they had groceries and DH bought school clothes and supplies for our grandson. BM tried to kill him when he was younger and lived in a bottle most of her life. BM mother doesn't work, but I do. So working all day, then up all night taking car of SKs, taking off work to care for them, it's all a blurr. I don't even get a mention and I'm always there for DH and SKs. I draw comfort from knowing my biological children would never behave in such a manner. I'm soo DONE !!! I think I need counseling to understand why I have stayed so long. I do care about my SKs and I love my grandchildren even though I'm not a blood relative. I can't do dysfunction and this only a tiny fraction of what I deal with on a daily basis. Somebody please tell me things will change. It took me 39 years to find the right man, but if I stay SKs will suck the life and all joy from me. If doubt I will ever find the love that I share with my husband.