Ex's newfound interest
Dh's ex is a master manipulator ........a seductress actually( whore). I think she married dh to get out of a poor family in a poor town. No use for him!!
So, she felt the need to text dh that their little gremlin had arrived at her semester abroad safely last week. And today? A text of a pic that gremlin had forwarded to HER.
Mind you, their daughter sees no need to engage with her father as all money is ordered by the court..
So what is up? As long as I have been around, this has never ever happened. My opinion that this must be a manipulation, but what? Obviously ex feels threatened, and with this chick, that is never good!
I do know that when dh started stirring the pot last month over his suspecting that his parents trust fund money to dsughter was used by ex..that got both ex and daughter getting on the phone.......but no bank statement ever materialized..hmmmmmmm
So what is up? It has to be over money....
Should I be nervous? I do not think dh would ever fall for this chick.......I frankly do not care......crazy as it sounds.......this witch could be dangerous if the danger to her was great enough. As in she lives high and is in big debt..
I think punkin is right. Is
I think punkin is right. Is she building the case for court to show that the SD keeps in touch and so should not be emancipated? I am not sure if it matters... but it seems preplanned.
On the other hand... when my BS16 went abroad in the summer, i kept exH informed. No pictures, just short emails to say that he arrived safely/was at the airport/etc. Later he could skype with BS himself. I do not play games with him, i just thought if something happened, i did not want to be blamed for keeping it from him. Everything went well.
Keep us posted re the ex. She is being too chummy.
I think she is nervous over
I think she is nervous over dh's allegations about two things.. Yes I think if we looked at the bank statement of the money from dh's parents , it likely will show a large check made out to ex, or even show checks made out to various wedding venues. Remember she got married a month after! This would look very bad in court as she already has a court order against her to pay off 40 k college loans of oldest daughter that ex never paid, although forcing dh to pay his share.
However, something else is up. I think if she were worried about emancipation, she would force the daughter to have contact with dh. Remember these women rule with an iron fist, and the daughters jump!
This has to do with ex and saving her own hide.........
Yes, and this is the last
Yes, and this is the last child, so dh rides off into the sunset.. That makes her nervous because he has been a father figure to her as well. He did her bidding .......paid all her bills. I think she is worried that dh will lose their numbers. She has met with me several years ago ..I told her flat out that dh was not crying in his beer over the loss of them. That he had moved on, even though she plotted against that.. That the girls could have been a part of our lives, but they made their choice.
Right now I am not bringing up the girls or ex.
He is milk toast around
He is milk toast around them.. And she knows it.
My ex would have murdered me long ago if I had done even a fraction of the behaviors she did to dh and I. After the wedding debacle, dh should have blocked her emails and phone calls, for good. If someone had done that to me, you would be forever gone.......and yes she could send anything related to brats via snail mail.
Thinking about it, it is
Thinking about it, it is unbelievable that he ALLOWS her to contact him, even after taking his parents money!
The final straw.........how do I have respect for him at times? It is tough now.......but I try to block it out of my mind, and do not discuss them with him..
I think many times how
I think many times how divorced couples interact after divorce is similar to how they engaged in their marriage.. In my dh's case, she walked all over him thru whole marriage and now? Lol.....
So it helps to tell myself that this debacle has nothing to do with me. I intend to keep my finances separate, we even have separate houses and I do not intend to give up mine.
I am laughing!! Almost
I am laughing!! Almost choked on my coffee!!!
I think that this debacle has
I think that this debacle has kept me from feeling very close to dh......it does affect my level of intimacy with him. I do not trust him........he has been caught giving extra money to daughter that time she was speaking with him, and he pulled the old I had told, don't you recall? That fact that he claimed he told me damaged our relationship. I will never fully trust him and never give him control over my finances. I am not divorcing him now, but in many ways I do not feel as married as I did in my first marriage. Maybe that is to be expected in second marriages?
He will never get fed
He will never get fed up....he is a masochist. He was married to a sadist for years, and unbelievably, he is the one who begged HER to come back, even after screwing everything. ( remember that little old letter showed up in the house AFTER my wedding? .......)
This was even after he found out she was partying with two guys in a hotel room. But he didn't want to assume she was f$&@ing them!
And he still will not admit they planted that letter.
Sick relationship, yes? I guess I am concerned that she is tossing out crumbs......when will she reel him in? And is something more sinister afoot?