the ex thinks her grown kids are babies
ok, scenario: husband and wife argue, wife decides to go out of town to see her 92 yr old gmom to "get away from drama". and on her bday, that husband forgot!
husband stays home.
husbands has told wife on numerous occasions how his ex wife still "wants him back". grown step kids confirm thru conversations the same thing. wife insecure.
while wife is out of town, step daughter, husbands baby girl <21) gets sick and need supervision while wife is out of town.
ex wife offers to come to the home, and hour away to bring medicine for21 yr old to stop throwing up....husband lives WALKING DISTANCE from hospital!
husband is good, says no thank you, tells wife of this, husband blocks ex's # from his phone to prevent any more texts and calls and vmails. ex left vmail THANKING THE HUSBAND FOR TAKING CARE OF HIS OWN DAUGHTER...DID I MENTION SHE IS 21 A N D OWNS HER OWN HOME??
wife comes home, all is well, to save face (although it was like chewing glass) thE wife send a text to ex wife to say thank you for offering help and she is happy the daughTer is well again. (always be sweet for the grown step kids!!!!)
ex wife REFUSES TO RESPOND!!
PLEASE, TELL ME YOUR THOUGHTS ON HOW TO FEEL ABOUT EX WIFES OFFERS AND LACK OF RESPONDING!!
sincerely
The Wife
oh, and husband hid the fact
oh, and husband hid the fact there was a phone conversation (with ex wife) from wife, husband said there were texts but no calls.
wife had TO ASK "so, you didn't talk to her even on the kids phones"?
husbands response, stuttered, oh well um, i was on speaker phone with son and ex wife jumped on the call"
but did NOT offer this information until wife DRAGGED it out!!
btw kids rae 21 23 26 yrs old. NOT children but grown and on their own!!
Well, it doesn't sound like
Well, it doesn't sound like Dh and the ex were exactly doing anything but fussing over their daughter. I in no way shape or form think of my adult children as babies, but I too would drive an hour to bring one of them meds (and/or check in on them) if they were really under the weather and unable to fend for themselves while being ill.
I do 'get' your insecure (perhaps with reason if your ass of a DH keeps touting about his ex wanting him back), but she offered to run an errand and perhaps check on her kid, not come jump your husband. The daughter has her own home, is a barfing mess. Wouldn't matter to me if my ex lived across the street from the pharmacy...I'd still offer to come if needed.
If your Dh is so untrustworthy that BM coming to town to her daughter's home to check on said daughter, IMO you've got more issues than BM not responding to your email/text. But the issues sound like they should be with him and not BM/SD. Frankly I'd be a bit surprised to get a text from you thanking me for worrying over/taking care of my child. it's my kid, of course I'd do whatever in the event kid was down and out and needed assistance. I wouldn't do it for the ex Dh (or for you) I would have offered because it's my child. Why would I need your thanks (and/or approval)? But yeah, I probably would have texted back 'no problem' .
i agreee, my insecurities do
i agreee, my insecurities do get the best of me at times.
but being told by the kids things about their parents sex life or ALWAYS in front of saying "hay dad remember when you and mom" this or that blah blah blah
22 yr old SS posted a comment publicly that it was great his parents didnt use a condom cuz he's so awesome, the following post specifically named my husband and ex wife...by name. when i asked it to be taken down the ex wife calls up ss and starts going off, ss tells husband, it gets back to me.
it's stupid childish games and i need to be the bigger better person and not fall into them!
i can do this! i am stronger than i think....hahaha i think!!
thank you for your thoughts. means a lot
THANK YOU "StepAside" your
THANK YOU "StepAside" your words are very comforting. i think i needed that.
i just HATE she wont go away and i HATE the feelings i have inside. i can not change any of them and i know i need to work harder and changing myself ie..stop setting myself up to be let down and stop worrying about things that haven't happened!
thank you so much
i actually text her because
i actually text her because thats the stupid thing she did....text AND called my husband to THANK him for taking care of his own daughter! it rubbed me wrong so i politely returned the stupidity!
I agree with TVP, tog,
I agree with TVP, tog, imasmom and SA. Quite frankly, I wish more BMs did what your SDs BM did. My SDs BM wouldn't show any regard for them if anything happened to them, or they got sick. Sad, but true. My mom would have (and has) done what your SDs BM did for her daughter when I've been sick or in a crisis.
this is the thing.....i too
this is the thing.....i too have kids and i would do anything for them as well but.....if i was THAT concerned about my child's health i sure wouldn't want my ex to wait an hour for me to bring medicine when the hospital is seriously walking distance, you can be in the er in less then 5 minutes if your drive.
so NO i do NOT feel as though this was ANYTHING but a game. i sure as hell wouldn't want MY CHILD throwing up an additional HOUR or more if that was the scare, id WANT MY CHILD TO GET IMMEDIATE HELP!!
she thinks i blocked her number, not him, because he says NOTHING, so she still thinks they can be old friends and it's just me in the way!
my kids are still younger and i HAVE to talk to their father for pick ups and drops offs and school and holidays. but we do not wish each other happy holidays or happy birthdays. i do not call him every time one of my kids are sick and THANK HIM for being their FATHER and taking care of them, nor does he call me!!....are you kidding me??? i mean.....it's like a man referring to spending time with his kids as BABYSITTING! he is their FATHER not a random sitter!!
there was ABSOLUTELY no need for that woman to do what she did, she was sitting next to her other son who was on the phone with my husband so there was just no need for her to get on the phone, texts him more or call him and call him. these kids are NOT BABIES, they do drugs and drink and party party party.....NOT BABIES!!!!
I think there was nothing
I think there was nothing wrong with what the BM did...or how your DH handled things.
As for not responding to your text..I probably wouldn't respond to my x's wife's text either.
Not because I am playing games or trying to get one over on you(folks aren't ALWAYS thinking of ways to mess with you)
...but that I don't give you any thought at all.
If I desire to show care and concern for my child, no matter what their age...I would think it kind of out of
place to be thanked for it by the new wife.
There is no rule in the Rule of Texting that says every text must be answered.
UPDATE! THIS IS WHY I GET SO
:jawdrop: UPDATE!
THIS IS WHY I GET SO UPSET. SHE JUST WONT GO AWAY AND HUSBAND WILL NOT TELL HER TO.
so APPARENTLY she must think that I BLOCKED her from my husbands phone because sure enough xmas eve my husband gets a text from his 21 daughter. says "mom wanted me to tell you that so and so died"
ok, this person who died is someone my husband has not seen nor talked to since HIGH SCHOOL, my husband is 47btw. i feel this was NOT something that needed to be relayed, he thinks the same BUT REFUSES to say anything. ohhhhh THEN husband is online with his 26yr old son playing a video game with headset so they can chat. his ex wife goes to sons house, GETS ON THE XBOX AND STARTS TO PLAY HIS SONS GUYS THEN YELLS IN THE HEADSET "OHHH HI (by name to my husband)"!
I MEAN UGH!! he blocker her # which send a reply text anytime she tries that says she is blocked so she KNOWS she is blocked from his phone......xmas eve shes sure to be brought up then xmas day she pulls the xbox stunt!!
i think its rude and i think his son and daughter could learn a little manners. why is that woman SHOVED IN MY FACE?? his kids are GROWN 21 23 26......
i was crying over this before she pulled the xbox, i was told by him that i was a crazy bitch and he mocked my crying. MOCKED ME in a way that was hurtful. he went into a rage.....
but then she PROVED ME RIGHT by getting on the xbox!!!
it's NOT JUST MY insecurities......his ex wife and his kids all play these stupid games
he said nothing just got off the game. he wont even tell her to stop with this stupid shit! wont say a word to HER but flipps out on me when i am upset????
i want out!
i thought as my husband i would be put first not her. i gues not, it seems its easier to upset me than it is her