I have been with my DH for ten years, married for the past 7. When we got together he was going through the divorce. He has 4 children that fit in between the ages of mine. 2 boys and twin girls. They were young then 9, 8 and 6. They where constantly dropped off by their mother and left every weekend. As I had all boys, I loved to the girls hair and dress them like girls. I also cut the boys hair and did things for them. Soon I was being told by the one girl "My mother does not want you doing our hair. My mother does not want you cutting his hair" etc. So I stopped. Over the years I bought Christmas and Birthday presents. Only to find them left at our house still in the box or the clothes with the tags on. When the girls got older they got jobs and quit coming to our house all together. The oldest son would take a week to explain the problems there.
The girls just graduated from high school in May. The ones boyfriend proposed the Sunday before the graduation. They are getting married the end of the month. I decorate wedding cakes, sew wedding dresses and create wedding flowers, bouquets, coursages, etc. DH offered to help with the wedding this way. She keeps telling him she will let him know. Her mother is in a same sex relationship. Today we got the invitation. DH and the mother are listed as if they are still married. The wedding breakfast is at the partner's mother's home. We still have not heard what she wants us to do.
They are getting married in an LDS temple so neither my husband and I can attended the ceremony. I am not LDS, he is but not active. Think I am blamed for this on some levels. The reception is 4 hours away. I do not want to go. I have a feeling I will go and get handed a bill to pay for something I could of done at wholesale costs and get mad and FINALLY blow up after 10 years at the mother or the daughter.
Do you think I should still go? I have already told my sons they do not have to go.