I think it all boils down to this: Some adults are selfish a$$holes, some aren't.

We see it in the workplace, we see it in society in general. And we see it in families. They can be your own adult kids/relatives or they can be someone else's.

My sister was an absolute a$$ when my father started to date. You cannot imagine the hell she put him (and his female friends) through. Fits, ultimatums, etc.

I had no problem with him dating and liked the women my sister was trying to constantly oust.

Reason: My sister is a jacka$$ - not only when it came to our father but in many other areas of her life. My brother and I have much mellower and accepting personalities. That's just how we are.

There is no cure for jacka$$es, unfortunately. The main thing is to recognize them when you see them, and avoid them at all possible costs.

I think these people need to be in counseling. Meaning the stepkids. I understand that they are sad but this is an issue of theirs that they need to work out on their own.

I started dating my current husband about 6 weeks after my first husband died. Some people had problems with it, but apparently I did not nor did dh. Kids were too little (1 and 2)to know any different. In some ways, i feel like dh saved my life. I was in rough spot. My first marriage was full of difficulties (addiction issues)and I hadn't felt "in love" for some time although loved him as a person. Had two small children. My first dh died in a rather public, tragic sort of manner and I lived in a small community. So what greater gift to me than for God to provide me the opportunity to fall in love again? I felt it was just meant to be. One door closed and another opened and all of that stuff. There were some that told me to take time to "grieve"-how freaking depressing is that? Do you know how depressing that is to someone who just lost someone? I didnt want to feel bad, I wanted to feel better. I wanted to explore new opportunities, make this a turning point in my life, to put it on a better track, to put ME on a better track-NOT sit around and grieve.

So I've always applauded anyone that can find love again after losing a spouse. It is a wonderful wonderful thing. Both my parents are still alive and together and if anything ever happened to either one of them I sincerly hope that they would find some nice man or lady to spend the rest of their days with. My only concern would be that they find someone good to them.

Kids/adults/entitled people in general are out of control these days. We, as individuals, have no business in other people's relationships (except perhaps our minor childrens). I dont even recall ever thinking like that. It was part of the reason I was somewhat flabbergasted last year when ss point blank told me if his dad wasnt going to be with his mom he didnt really think he should be with anyone. WTF, kid? Your parents divorced 12 years ago! You were 1. You are almost 14 years old. Move on. Get your own life-stop worrying about your parents, who both remarried long ago and have had subsequent children

I would have killed to have found someone for my dad when my mother died. Mid 70s. He dated some but just didn't want someone around all the time (except for me).

And from that article it sounds like the dad is going out with several women. That's healthier than just glomming on to the first person they meet.

What's the dad supposed to do - sit around and wait for the daughter to give him a few crumbs of her time?

As posted by 2tired - some people are just selfish assholes.

My brother is like this. Our dad died 3.5 years ago, my sisters and I all encourage our mom to date my brother flips out! We had to give his dumb@ss a beat down one night because my mom actually made plans to go out with a guy she met at Lowe's and threw an epic tantrum. He seemed really nice.