Husband helps ex-wife with cell phone bill
Hi all,
My husband's exwife couldn't pay her cell phone bill recently. She had asked him to help her pay it because her cell phone was about to be disconnected. He helped her out by paying it, however, he deducted the child support with the amount he paid to help her with her cell phone bill. His ex-wife has blocked my husband's phone number from her cell phone also. So it makes it difficult for him to reach her regarding his daughter and vice versa. She will call from her work regarding anything about his daughter and he has to call her house phone to communicate with her. She is not always home so if there was ever an emergency with his daughter she will not be able to be contacted right away. I was a little annoyed he helped her with her cell phone bill, but at least he deducted it from the support. He also pays her child support, the full amount every month on the 1st of each month. He will even pay her sooner if she asks to have the money sooner. Just venting.....hope someone relates to my story. 
If he deducted it from her
If he deducted it from her support, and there is a court order, he just screwed himself. For all intents and purposes in the eye of the law, he is behind on his child support.
I was just thinking the same
I was just thinking the same thing. And no way would I pay the bill of a person who has my number blocked, but that's just me. I'd suggest she learn how to budget her money better, if the possibility of losing her cell phone is an issue.
Completely agree 100%!
Completely agree 100%!
Is there a court order in
Is there a court order in place? Because the CO for my skids states that the parents have to be able to contact each other in case of emergencies.
paying it was a bad idea. #1
paying it was a bad idea. #1 the child support is for the child not for moms unnecessary bills (if she has a home phone, stores, and restaurants will let you use a phone in emergency. #2 they are right he is late if there is CO child support and he took it apond him self to deduct from it.
But yes I can relate I had several talks with my FDH when we were dating about sending extra money BM's way.
if he has court order for
if he has court order for child support and he took it out of her child support..it dont matter if he has proof he paid it and her cell phone..she can still file on him for not paying child support. He is late on what amount he took out. I would let him know he is in comtempt.
Also, i cant believe he would even help her!! He isnt married to her anymore nor is it his place to pay her bills. OMG!
What a lovely gesture on his
What a lovely gesture on his behalf...I would be so annoyed....
My skids live with the BM and my DH pays her a weekly fortune and paid for the skids cell phones....and decided to pay BM an extra 100 bucks a week out of the goodness of his heart because she demanded it....
NOT ANY MORE....
she gets nothing but the CO amt, and we cut the skids cell phones....(they had ran the bill up to a thousands dollars one month)
Its not exactly the same but I know where your coming from...."what hold do these women still have over these men to make them agree to such a thing, and who are these BM's to think they can ask/demand it"???
My DH did that when he was
My DH did that when he was forced to pay for brakes on SD's car without consult. In the past DH had let the mechanic charge his card when working on the car. Here, all he got was a text from SD saying "I picked up my car!" and then he got a phone call from the mechanic and it was a $579 charge. So DH deducted it from CS, and BM took him to court.
DH and BM both learned lessons. DH will never pay anything extra ever again.
Thanks ladies for your
Thanks ladies for your comments to my venting
...I didnt know that my husband could be behind in CS if he deducts the cell phone bill. I didn't think of it that way. He was doing her a favor. I will have to inform him that he may in arrears if she goes back to court.
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The day my husband helps his
The day my husband helps his ex pay her cell phone bill is the day I kick him out and file for divorce. She can afford to drive around in a much newer vehicle and does not pay for any of my SD's asthma meds. Hell no would I stand for him giving that woman one cent toward her cell phone, not for one minute!
A practical solution could be
A practical solution could be that maybe he could get his daughter her own cell phone, for safety reasons as well as a means to communicate. If she is young, you can rig the phone to only outgoing emergency, and limit the incoming I do believe. (you'd have to call to find out from the provider details naturally) ...but I have teenagers, and as part of my 'support' I actually pay for their cell phone usage, and it also lets me communicate with each of them directly on a daily basis without having to go through their dad. Trust me- I'd never get to communicate with them if I always had to use the house phone. I keep cell phone receipts as a means of proof of pymt, and it works well.
A friend's husband paid his
A friend's husband paid his ex wife's mortgage payment for a couple of years in lieu of CS - which was more than child support when she was having financial problems.
She later sued him for non-payment of CS. He had to pay her thousands and thousands of dollars plus he was made to look like a deadbeat dad to his employer.
I can't believe someone could be that low but then never underestimate how horrible some people can be. Even their adult children were horrified at what their mother had done.