Essentially make their life hell. You dont say the age of the child so I am not really sure how to advise you on this-it makes a big difference if the child is 14 or 4.
I am worse at the "you're grounded" thing than my kids are. I grounded my 10yo last week, then I forgot and went and got her best friend to spend the night (for the past 2 nights) without even telling DD. I am horrible at this punishing thing...
I read your bio. There might be other things at play here. NOT that I am saying he needs no punishment, but your girlfriend is of concern here-how does she punish? What is her relationship with her son like? Does she let him do what he wants? If this is a spoiled brat, you may be fighting a losing battle, unless your gf is on the same page as you. That is KEY. And you only being around a few months is hard, too.
Taking away privileges is the only thing that's ever worked for me.
You have to figure out what kid really cares about, and then make it something they only get if they behave, and take it away when they misbehave.
It's different wtih each kid, some examples are: Time with friends, cell phone, telephone privileges, video games, computer time, TV time... with girls it could be a hair straight iron even! Everyone has their "thing" they will fall in line to keep getting.
Im sure that the child in question is at least a little bothered at being grounded, perhaps they choose not to show it, every child is different and so we often have to apply different discipline to different children, my Sd6 loves playing with me, sometimes she is rude, so I say "right Im not playing with you unless your nice to me", that always works, yet some kids would'nt care less, I also withhold treats and trips out, if she is naughty, I always give a warning and that works, always stick to your word and never back down, never show that he upsets you either, as others have said, withhold phones, computers that sort of thing. Don't feel guilty, what would ss grow up like if he had no boundaries and discipline? Chores are a great, you are teaching them, discipline, respect and how to look after themselves and contribute to the household, how can that be bad?
Essentially make their life
Essentially make their life hell. You dont say the age of the child so I am not really sure how to advise you on this-it makes a big difference if the child is 14 or 4.
Green beans are effective I
Green beans are effective I have heard.
I was waiting for the green
I was waiting for the green beans!! LMAO! That joke is going to be around permanently on this site
If you dont have green beans,
If you dont have green beans, try peas.
Or if that fails just pay
Or if that fails just pay them a dollar
I am SOOOOO going to use this
I am SOOOOO going to use this in a couple of years!
Older kids, swap the ice
Older kids, swap the ice water for boiling water...
oh, wait... that's not right.
I am worse at the "you're
I am worse at the "you're grounded" thing than my kids are. I grounded my 10yo last week, then I forgot and went and got her best friend to spend the night (for the past 2 nights) without even telling DD. I am horrible at this punishing thing...
I have to get better about
I have to get better about it. I know it bothers DH, he hasn't said anything to me about it... yet.
I read your bio. There might
I read your bio. There might be other things at play here. NOT that I am saying he needs no punishment, but your girlfriend is of concern here-how does she punish? What is her relationship with her son like? Does she let him do what he wants? If this is a spoiled brat, you may be fighting a losing battle, unless your gf is on the same page as you. That is KEY. And you only being around a few months is hard, too.
Taking away privileges is the
Taking away privileges is the only thing that's ever worked for me.
You have to figure out what kid really cares about, and then make it something they only get if they behave, and take it away when they misbehave.
It's different wtih each kid, some examples are: Time with friends, cell phone, telephone privileges, video games, computer time, TV time... with girls it could be a hair straight iron even! Everyone has their "thing" they will fall in line to keep getting.
Im sure that the child in
Im sure that the child in question is at least a little bothered at being grounded, perhaps they choose not to show it, every child is different and so we often have to apply different discipline to different children, my Sd6 loves playing with me, sometimes she is rude, so I say "right Im not playing with you unless your nice to me", that always works, yet some kids would'nt care less, I also withhold treats and trips out, if she is naughty, I always give a warning and that works, always stick to your word and never back down, never show that he upsets you either, as others have said, withhold phones, computers that sort of thing. Don't feel guilty, what would ss grow up like if he had no boundaries and discipline? Chores are a great, you are teaching them, discipline, respect and how to look after themselves and contribute to the household, how can that be bad?