What age is the worst to deal with a stepchild?
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Just wondering from those of you who have been stepparents for a long time which age is the hardest? I was reading in an article that when someone initially comes into a relationship that the age between 10-14 is the hardest as they are trying to assert their independence. Seems when they are older than that they are somewhat more idependent and more consumed with their own lives and friends. What do you think?
I came into ss16's life at
I came into ss16's life at age 12 and heard often "you're not my parent". Uhg hated it.
For which I am sure you were
For which I am sure you were thinking "Thank God you're not mine."
My wife and I met when SS-20
My wife and I met when SS-20 was 15mos old. Married a week before he turned 2yo.
The worst age range was 8-17. At least for me.
I don't think there is a good
I don't think there is a good age or a bad age. They all SUCK.
My SS was 14 when I met him. He's 17 now, and he's 100% worse than when I met him...
I am a stepkid.
I met my stepmother when I was 5. We've never gotten along. Honestly I was afraid of her as a little kid, then I was a rotten teen, and now as an adult I realize that she is a bitch. Not because she's my SM, but because she's just a mean and nasty person and no one in my Dad's family likes her either.
I am not sure there was EVER an age, at which my SM and I would have been able to have a good relationship.
Never had to live it but from
Never had to live it but from what I know about my two SSs it was from slightly beyond toddlerhood to adult.
The worst problem about the teen years is that legally you cannot kick them out.
My sd's were 11 and 15 when I
My sd's were 11 and 15 when I first met them. Dh's eldest was fine until she turned 18 and then turned into a nightmare. She was consumed with jealous resentment of my relationship with dh and cried the blues to anyone who would listen that dh didn't love her anymore/loved his girlfriend more, etc.. etc... she felt she shouldn't have to work, her parents should pay for everything for her while in school including partying with her friends and regardless of what hour she arrived home from partying regardless of the day of week there should have been a hot meal waiting for her that was warmed in the oven all night just awaiting her arrival. I am not kidding or exaggerating. Super entitled with the most insane expectations. She is still no picnic in her 30's!
Younger sd and I did not start off well and hadn't seemed to progress much while she was in her teens. However once in her early 20's she had more maturity than the two of them together. Turned into a loving, respectful, appreciative woman and most importantly feels that as a step parent while I was not obligated to do anything for her over the years, but made many unselfish choices for her and she herself has said that she appreciates it all so much as she knows it was my CHOICE to do these things
My parents also divorced when I was in my teens and I wasn't overly thrilled with my sf at first either. Over time however we developed a warm and loving relationship and he held value in my life.
I think it all really just depends on the individuals involved and the situation itself...
I think it depends on the
I think it depends on the kid. SS14 has definite issues, but he's generally bee nreally respectful and is a good kid overall. SS8? Well, he's BM's evil little twin and has always had a shitty attitude. He'll probably always be a turd.
SS's worst time was 8ish to
SS's worst time was 8ish to 14ish.
I've been with SD15 since she
I've been with SD15 since she was just short of 9...and all of the ages have SUCKED so far.
What age is the hardest to
What age is the hardest to deal with when it comes to Skids? All.of.them
MY SS9 at the time came into
MY SS9 at the time came into the picture. ss is now 14. I must say ss14 has been the most challenging. Mostly because of BM interference with our parenting time.