Question at what age do kids typically take over planning their get togethers with their friends without their parents help or getting involved except to pick up or drop off?
I'm sorry I should have been more clear with what I meant. I was meaning around what age do you stop initiating play dates for your kids or stepkids? When kids are young the parents pick up the phone/email/text whatever and say "hey my little jonny is in your son's class and he was asking for a playdate with your son how's next Sat at my house?". At what age does that become "weird" for the parent to still do that? When do kids typically take over the initiating and pick up the phone/text or ask in school "hey want to come hang out at my house next weekend"? Of course they are going to clear it with both parents but for the most part except for agreeing or not agreeing the parents stay out of it.
Probably varies for the kid and how "sociable" they are. I would estimate that around 10-12 is an average age to expect kids to be able to (dis)organise themselves with their own chums.
My son is 13 and has been doing this (inviting friends over or going to friends) since he was around 8 or 9. These are his buddies he can walk to or bike to. He can still do this although I sometimes need to drive him about as we live in a small-ish village and he needs to go into the main town with friends for a movie or something and that requires a drive. Then the parents will co-ordinate, but it usually is on the initiative of the kids.
Around 12. SD14 was on this at 12, DH had to monitor and say no sometimes - she had to learn how to ASK him for rides, not demand them or dictate terms. I think she's given up now though, she never does anything with her local friends unless it's school.
SD12 will arrange things with her friends, those who have cell phones. We'll monitor and negotiate but she's pretty good. Several of her friends don't yet have phones so we go through the parents which is totally fine.
12-ish works from my perspective. And then only as a request to the parents in all of the play date participants families. Kids can plan all day long but they must get permission to execute the plan.
As a parent with Adult AND
As a parent with Adult AND minors I will say this.
If you live in our house and under 18 you bet we are involved. No kid in my house runs to another kids house until I get the OK from their parents.
PS adult is married with little one. I used that as point of reference that 'this' topic is long standing rule for us.
I'm sorry I should have been
I'm sorry I should have been more clear with what I meant. I was meaning around what age do you stop initiating play dates for your kids or stepkids? When kids are young the parents pick up the phone/email/text whatever and say "hey my little jonny is in your son's class and he was asking for a playdate with your son how's next Sat at my house?". At what age does that become "weird" for the parent to still do that? When do kids typically take over the initiating and pick up the phone/text or ask in school "hey want to come hang out at my house next weekend"? Of course they are going to clear it with both parents but for the most part except for agreeing or not agreeing the parents stay out of it.
Probably varies for the kid
Probably varies for the kid and how "sociable" they are. I would estimate that around 10-12 is an average age to expect kids to be able to (dis)organise themselves with their own chums.
My son is 13 and has been doing this (inviting friends over or going to friends) since he was around 8 or 9. These are his buddies he can walk to or bike to. He can still do this although I sometimes need to drive him about as we live in a small-ish village and he needs to go into the main town with friends for a movie or something and that requires a drive. Then the parents will co-ordinate, but it usually is on the initiative of the kids.
Around 12. SD14 was on this
Around 12. SD14 was on this at 12, DH had to monitor and say no sometimes - she had to learn how to ASK him for rides, not demand them or dictate terms. I think she's given up now though, she never does anything with her local friends unless it's school.
SD12 will arrange things with her friends, those who have cell phones. We'll monitor and negotiate but she's pretty good. Several of her friends don't yet have phones so we go through the parents which is totally fine.
12-ish works from my
12-ish works from my perspective. And then only as a request to the parents in all of the play date participants families. Kids can plan all day long but they must get permission to execute the plan.