I had posted a topic the other week in regards to my fianc'es ex-wife and I knew there was a train wreck heading our way. I apologize if this ends up lengthy. This is honestly the only place I can really really vent. Friends are too buys, Im too busy and I need to get it out.
Crazy had mentioned to us that she thinks her youngest, SS11, may have ADHD all because of some simple things like he pulled some tickets at school, got a D on a test (yet has all A's except one which is a C) and apparently has a hard time concentrating. My fiance explained to her, the best he can because her communication skills consists of insults and curse words, that he feels he does things at her home to get attention. Of course that wasn't an option. She had sent him a text later that night and said that SS11 had a meltdown about school and feels like he can't concentrate and doesn't like getting bad grades and so on. She had sent this after my fiance went to bed so he didn't see it until the next day. When SS11 came over he talked to him about it and he said he didn't have a meltdown. Yes, they discussed stuff but he didn't break down or anything. In that long text she had said she was going to talk to counselor and was thinking about making an appt with their pediatrician. We never heard anything after that. Welp, yesterday she notified him that they were at the dr's office. This is currently our week of custody but SS11 had texted him after and asked if he could stay with his mom because he didn't feel well and he would be home really really late. My fiance asked why because his appt was at noon and he was to be at the house by 430 so he didn't understand what the hold up was. That was all it took. She flipped. Long story short, she told him she had his teachers do evaluations and she did her own home evaluation and took all the to the dr appt that day, was in there for two hours and came out with her SS11 being diagnosed with add, odd, anxiety and depression!!!!! Here's the kicker, my fiance was NEVER involved. She didn't tell him about the evaluations, she didn't tell him about the appt until they were there, she didn't ask him to do a home evaluation, NOTHING! So this kid was diagnosed with these disorders by a pediatrician at that with half of the information.
Everything she is worried about is only happening at her home. She says SS11 will say he doesn't want to live, nobody loves him, he wishes his brother wasn't born - blah blah blah. We explained to her that everything she is saying never happens at our house, ever! Does he fight with his older brother, absolutely, do we punish them when they are both in the wrong, absolutely! The worst thing he says is I hate you to his brother - shocker! Lets put him on meds! (eye roll) The root of the problem is that his child knows how to manipulate the shit out of his mom. Period. For example, two or so years ago he wanted her to take him to school, she said no. He threw a fit and all of the sudden had a breakdown about how he doesn't like it at our house, my son and his brother were always picking on him and my son was touching him inappropriately! Now they only got to the touching inappropriately part because he told her about an argument they had and my son had hit him in the balls. She took that, went to child services and the cops and all the kids were investigated. She is the one that made the wedge between him and his brother, SS14. His brother is always getting in trouble with her because all SS11 has to do is bat his eyes and she doesn't even ask, SS14 is grounded. We have seen the resentment build up over the years between the two boys and honestly between SS14 and her as well. He never wants to go back to her home, he didn't even want to get her a mothers day gift. SS11 showered her with gifts - with money he stole from his fathers wallet AND she knew and said nothing!!!!!! She accepted the gifts! Didn't even give us the $ back! I have soooo many stories on how she has completely molded that child into what he is its not even funny! This woman is a pill addict herself, on at least 6 different meds and I feel she wants her son to have issues like her so she has someone to sympathize with. So she can justify all her and his wrong doings based on the fact they have issues! Now, do I think its possible that SS11 may indeed have some problems, yea, I have seen some anxiety stuff happen but in no way shape or form do I feel he needs to be medicated. And in no way shape or form do I feel he should've been diagnosed by a pediatrician AND without my fiance having any input!!!!! She says he is disruptive in class yet we've never gotten anything from the school saying so. The worst punishment this kid has had is pulling a flippin ticket!!! What is she going to do when he goes to middle school next year and gets detention?! She'll probably want him institutionalized! The worst part of all of this is that she admitted, through text, last night that she had every intentions on starting him on medications and not telling my fiance! My fiance already has two calls into the Dr and stated on the voicemail that he has 50% legal and physical custody and in now way is his son to be put on meds until he comes in and talks to him AND his son sees a child psychologist. I am so determined to get to the bottom of this and prove to this woman she is absolutely out of her mind! I want a professional to see that she is part of this problem hands down!!!