It is nice isn't it to let fly without fear of all hell breaking loose. More importantly it is online therapy free of charge so all can access it. Women in particular resolve most of their problems by talking it out, but this stuff cannot easily be talked out with family and friends, so we come here to our online friends and let it go.

Its funny but even though I love my Sd6 and like her most of the time, I do not let her sit in my seat, it is so hard when we simply do not click with a step child, I did'nt like my Sd6 at first, she was a spoilt brat, with no volume control and very entitled, now with boundaries and constructive discipline, she is a different girl, much easier to like, she is the way she is, in part due to the way she has been brought up, it is not her fault that she is a reminder of the past, she is a person in her own right. What are you going to do about this? Perhaps you just needed to vent? You could be a positive influence on your Sd, she sounds like she needs your help to me, trust me I know how stressful and upsetting a child can be, what Im trying to say is, if you got involved Im sure you could help her with her hygience problems and be a real help to her, thus she will be easier to like.

"She is grose and eats like a feral child who was raised by wolves"

This cracked me up - thanks. I thonght my SD was the only one who was like this. She eats everything with her hands. Pasta, eggs, vegetales - everything. If I had a dollar for everytime I said 'eat with your fork' I could take every SM on this board on a spa weekend.

My father was a career miltary officer and my mother is from the South so table manners were drilled into us from a very early age and I have done the same with my kids. My Sd....meh, who needs table manners? It is not like she will ever need them on a date, business dinner, you know, someday in your life.

Not my kid, not my problem

yep!

Kid doesn't know what a damn fork or napkin is. Weird, cause DH and his family are good, but they just don't correct her.

She always needs a haircut and a shower, hates brushing her teeth etc... I just can't wait for the boy crushes to kick in, because maybe then she'll have an interest in hygiene.

She had disgusting flip flops on the other day... When asked, she said they were her only ones... they are $1 at Old Navy... Come on!

Love , love , love this!

The last time I was around SD11 we were with the inlaws and she kept farting into her hand and then cupping it towards the people around her. I was so disgusted. If that were my kid, she would have gotten her ass chewed out. Instead , I let her grandparents chew her out.

She's also filthy as all get out too. She never showers or brushes her teeth. I guess it's supposed to be my job to remind her, but she's not my child so I don't associate doing those things with her. She comes her crusty as hell, so I assume her mother doesn't do much of that either.

Also , she has so many nice clothes , but wears the same old nasty tshirts all the time.

I'm so glad she's starting middle school this year. Maybe she'll start to care a bit more.

Oh good, I'm not the only one with hygiene-lacking S/kids!

SD10 and SS8 will literally go DAYS without a shower. We live in NC where it's 1000% humidity, they are sweating when they go outside, and SMELL horrible. Also, did I mention SS8 wets the bed almost every night and doesn't shower when he gets up? He walks by and smells like pee. *gag*.

Oh, and we moved a week ago, and last night I heard DH ask them where their toothbrushes are, and they said they didn't know. They haven't brushed their teeth in a WEEK!!! And this apparently didn't bother them. Ugh.

Even though sometimes I CAN stand my bfs three year old I can't overlook the fact that he is a spoiled brat who feels entitled to everything and is obviously a reminder of the past. He was an accident that I wish never happened and my life would be so much easier without him or his stupid sloppy bm! I hate that everyone let's him get away with murder, and I hate that people think it's funny when he is being a disgusting brat! And I hate the fact that he looks so much like my bf and everyone feels the need to point that out! Then again I also hate that he is starting to look more and more like bm! LOL also it irriates me that I can't enjoy my pregnancy to the fullest because my bf wants to wait a bit longer until he tells him. Until then we dont want bm to find out so WE can be the ones to tell him in whatever way we want.

It was very good for me to have the opportunity to slag off my SDs today, because I have to drive myself for day surgery at the hospital while DH is off on holiday with the SKIDS in the USA (we live in the UK).

OK - no holds barred - I hate my SDS because - they talk about rubbish at the dinner table, thinking they are clever and witty when actually they are boring and ignorant. SD15 talks bullshit and shows off, thinking she's the funniest thing in the western world. Actually, I would rather shove chillies up my privates than listen to her.

The younger one has filthy habits including wearing underwear for - I don't know - probably months - and then leaving it around her room for someone else to deal with. You do not want to imagine some of the revolting things I've picked off the floor with tongs.

The elder one has rages - which get blamed on her ADHD - she is 17 - and instead of saying nothing like I always do, I want to slap her and throw her in an oubliette.

SD15 steals from our house. They are both failing in school because they don't work. DH has wasted a fortune in school fees for private school for them both since age 4.

DH treats them like they are still ickle diddumses of 7 and 5 instead of 17 and 15.

THanks for the opportunity to vent on this of all days.

sigh.I feel sometimes so horrible, like a failure, but knowing that those feelings are sooooo normal helps me to accept that SD7 just sometimes sucks.I know its not her fault that she is a reminder of his past and that she is not mine.It sometimes just feels like having a little alien here and I feel uncomfortable because I can't relate to her and feel horrible that I don't try harder.She is a single child and got spoiled so much throughout her life , is needy for attention, is sometimes rather manipulative...but, hey, many kids are like that.It is only the role that she represents in the scenario that really makes it harder to accept as if she would be just some other child.
She sometimes gets right under my skin which confuses me since I am a mom of 3 and also worked my whole life with children.This is different and I am glad I understand that it is mainly because it happens in a step family.
SO helps me a lot building my position in this family and that helped quite a bit with SD since I was sick of feeling I would have to compete with her, which I refused.Many times I look at us and think we are doing well!!But still , some days I feel exactly like you :O