I have a 13 yo SD and by all accounts she is one of the most well behaved and sweetest teenagers ever. So why am I having a hard time bonding with her?? She moved in with us well over a year ago and her BM is not in the picture except a random email or text. I feel like I have been pushed into being this child's mother and I'm uncomfortable with it. I have 2 children from a previous marriage and one with DH. I'm not sure why but I feel like there is this "wall" between my sd and I. I find that every thing she does drives me nuts. I know that if my kids were to do the same things I would overlook them and I know that is not fair to my SD. I'm looking for any advice on how to find a bond with her to where I don't find myself wishing she would just go back to her BM. I let the little things bother me that are typical teenager behavior. She is constantly wanting something and I feel like she only starts a conversation in order to get an item or etc. that she wants. She is a very clingy child and I'm the total polar opposite of that I can't stand clingy people. How can I stop being so critical of her and find common ground? I don't want to push her away especially knowing her own BM has done a number on her. I don't want to be a another negative female influence!!