So fss10 has been asking a lot of questions about why his dad, me and his mom dont get along and he has been upset that he has not been able to spend more time with his dad and about the fact his mom gets so mad at him for wanting to be with his dad more. We had a conversation a few weeks ago after we went and saw a movie why he cant spend more time with his dad. I told him he needed to talk to his mom about it. He was too scared to tell his mom that he wanted to so he told her that I said he needs to tell her that he should be spending more time with his dad. She called fdh all pissed off about it but fss10 admitted he said that because he didnt want her to be mad.

Well we have them for our 2 weeks outta the summer and today on the way back from the zoo he asked me why his mom doesnt like him to be with his dad and why she smacks him and grounds him for wanting to be with his dad. I told him it was because she is selfish and the only reason he sees him now is because the judge makes her and that since he wants to spend more time with his dad that his dad is going to go back to the judge and ask for more time. He asked why she is like that and I told him it was just one of the many things that he would start to realize as he got older. He asked what else had happened and I told him his dad took her to court because she kept him and his sister away from his dad for over 6 months before. She has also told his dad that anything they have ever come home with (easter presents, sourveniers from outings) she has thrown away after they go to bed. You could tell a lightbulb went off in his head when I said that because he said "I knew it!" and said several things that had gone missing that his dad had given him.
She is prolly going to be pissed when they go home because they will both lash out at her but for real I think if he is old enough to ask about these situations, he is old enough to know the truth. Its really getting sad that he does not want to be at his moms house and she gets pissed off because he in comfortable here vs her house where she has alcoholic losers moving in and out of her house every few months. Currently she has 2 other adults and 3 kids living with her and these 2 kids in a 3 bedroom house. SInce she is single now she has been blowing up fdh's phone. When she called 14 times Monday morning he finally set his phone to send all her calls directly to voicemail because he could not even get work done (he is on the phone most of the day for work with dispatch). This psycho is pathetic. He has been paying child support but she claims she has not been getting it even though it is coming directly from his checks. Last time she went over there she laid into him saying her panic attacks, depression, etc was all his fault. She really needs to stop blaming him for all her problems. Seriously he is actually a dad who wants to be in his kids lives and pays child support but nothing is good enough for her.