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SMof2's picture

First I want to say Great job to all the divorce parents that put aside their differecnes and make visitation, holidays, vacations, and summer vacation work. I have seen with my own 2 eyes that coparenting works and really is best for the children.....

Unfortunately myself and by DH don't have this wonderful experience. My husbands ex-wife is an absolute terror. I cannot stand her....first co-parenting is out of the question although they have jint custody she does whatever she wants, she is alienating the children by moving 40 minutes away. Knowing that by moving my husband would only be able to see children everyother weekend instead of the 3 days a week and everyother weekend as the agreement states, she refuses to work and continues to ask for increase in child support which they issue her, she has section 8,welfare, medicaid (even though the children are covered on my husbands insurance, and food stamps. We need help too...I was laid off the same time she was and receive no assistance and we have to provide for the skids when they are here and when they aren't with us. How is this ok? I found a temporary position because we coukd not make ends meet with unemployment. Seems like my husband just works to have it all go to her...Why is this fair???

Its just one of those days but I want to commend all the divorced couples that make it work and get along. Appreciate what you have cause some of us would love to have that.

WitchiePoo's picture

Child support! BM has 4 kids with three fathers, all paying child support. She makes a pretty tidy sum, so I'm not sure how she's qualified for food stamps, etc, but she has. She doesn't work and puts the youngest ones in daycare (incurring that expense), so she can have her days to herself. DH works hard to pay child support for his two, and, like you, we have to absorb the additional cost of food, etc when the skids are with us. It's not fair at all.

Annoyed1's picture

I'm in the same boat as you with BM wanting more and more money! It's pathetic that grown women can't work and take care of themselves! I understand FDH having to pay child support as they aren't cheap, but by no means should a woman be able to make a living by popping kids out left, right and center!!! IMO, you shouldn't even be allowed to have kids if you're on welfare. Why should the state/governement have to pay for kids that you couldn't afford in the first place?

SMof2's picture

It sickens me. Those benefits are to be used when someone needs them to get back on their feet. The abuse makes me sick. But Hey it it what it is.
What really breaks my heart is when the skids come over and say I want to go to my mother's house ya'll don't have anything over here. Or the "where r we goign today" or " i hate being here in the summer...at my mothers we go on vacation and get to eat" Breaks my heart cause I really do love them and my Husband love them so much and we just can't afford all the extras..we don't have throw away money. We work hard fo the things we do have...its not mush but its more than some. Its like an arrow through my heart to hear how much they don't appreciate.

WitchiePoo's picture

I hear that!! BM is always letting the kids buy and rent movies and games through the cable service at her house, so they spend a ton on downloading "the latest." Here, Redbox on Friday night is as good as it gets, and they whine about it all the time. DH and I watch every penny, but, then again, we don't have 3 income streams like BM has!