I am new here I am so glad I found this place to vent! So here is my story my bf and I have been together 2 years now we are getting married next year. He has 3 daughters 1 of them his BM gave her to her grandmother when she was younger and the other 2 we got custody of last year. so in my home I am mommy to 6 kids my 4 and his 2. This woman has givin me problems from the start she would drop the kids off for weeks at a time and just leave them while my BF still paid his child support so instead of us paying double for the children we got a lawyer and got custody money wasn't the only reason either my SD8 would come home and ask questions about drugs and tell us how her mom would have her out at truck stops begging for food and money how she was out stealing things with them with her (and yes she was still getting the child support)and my SD8 had not been to school in a year and my SD3 didn't talk she didn't like women her grandma couldn't even go near her without the poor girl lashing out wanting to scratch her eyes out and mySD8 would state how she had to play the mommy to the other kids and get them food and give my SD3 a bottle and get her out of the crib while BM sat around and played video games or lay around with men so we got custody of the 2 children signed my SD8 up for school sadly she was put in the 1st grade at 8 and that's hard on her because my son is a year younger than her and a grade ahead of her she did great in school last year she got all A's and only missed one day of school because she was sick so BM lost custody of all 5 children and then out of the blue she tells us she got custody of the boys back i was really upset not that I don't want to see children with their mother I just think they aren't safe with her so she asked if the girls could see their brother we figured for the courts to give her custody back she had to be doing something right so we let them go bad bad bad mistake my SD8 came home and told me that BM pushed her off of a bridge into water to make her swim she told her she couldn't swim and BM said yes you can you're just being dramatic she stated to my SD8 she was tired of buying her new bf crack why would you even be with him?!? and she had the kids out while they were stealing gas and she was going and stealing food from the gas station as well. She had the children in the truck while they drove down the street with their drunken friends in the bed of the truck knocking peoples mailboxes down ( yeah she's a mature one) so the problem occurred when she wanted to call my SD8 and my SD8 told her mother she wanted nothing to do with her she tried making my SD8 feel guilty by saying new BF was now gone (1 days later) and she was sorry she knew that she had been a bad mother the past few years but she was trying to right her wrongs and then blamed my SD8 for lying she wasn't telling the truth but continued to apologize and admitted that she didn't put my SD3 in the car seat we had already told her to put her in because she showed up without a car seat to pick her up in and i gave her her car seat or told her she couldn't go she waited until she got around the corner and took her out so they would have enough room for everybody to sit so when I told her I thought it was just best that she go and ask the courts for visitations she told me i could continue to play "replacement" mom all I wanted to but we were just hurting the children. Do you honestly think I am hurting the children in my eyes I am protecting them from getting hurt I just want whats best for them like I do my own children.