things I taught my skids
I just realized sitting here and readin the posts on how much we dislike our skids, but at the same I do dislike them but I hate the neglect they get from bm and yes I will say the hands off parenting hubby does.
like for instance when I married him 3 years ago, I noticed that when his son came over all he would do was draw he was 7 at the time and I said to my husband. "I never see your son read a book, personally i dont think he can read"
My hubby said to me "Oh no his mother was a teacher she I am sure taught him how to read"
I give ss a book and say can you read the first page to me. and guess what " he could not even read the word -THE- yes the actualy word t.h.e and he sure couldnt read any of the other words.
all those years no one knew he could not read.
second I taught my sd18 how to drive. no one taught her how to drive yet she got a lexus at the age os 16.
so it's funny that we dont like them but yet we all do I best to try to love them like our own yet the BM's get all the credit like they did something special.
that shit got old real quick so I stopped doing so much for them.
OMG- this place is my safe
OMG- this place is my safe haven... I had no idea that other people felt the way I do, this is so cathartic to me... thank you all for your honesty!
Actually, I think it may come
Actually, I think it may come back as a plus later in life. Or at least that is what I am hoping for.
Do I really hate my skids? No. I actually care very much about them.
What I hate is the turmoil that being a step parent has brought into my life. And I hate a person that says she is a great mom, yet does everything to exclude their father. What I hate is not having control in my house- and I am not talking about just rules, but respect. I think, had BM given DH the opportunity to be a dad, and the respect she would have given him had they remained married...there would not be an issue....so I am frustrated with the turmoil, the constant war, and the constant feeling that I am being spied on.
When I disengaged from my skids, I went behind the scenes and did for DH instead- so that he could look good to his kids. He is good about birthday cards and what not, but when SD went to college, I bought all the stuff for a care package, that he dropped off- not me. I'm ok with that, because I want him to have a strong relationship with his kids.