It's been a long stressful week on many levels, and I am grateful that even hundreds of miles away DH has truly tried to comforted me, but sometimes it doesn't seem like enough until I deal with BM and I wanted to share the cause of a few giggles she provided and hope others can share as well -

1. One Wednesday my SO tried to call SS and BM wouldn't answer her phone, and said that SS was at church and he would call after. He nosily asked where she was just to get a rise as she tries to be secretive but she lives in a small town so it's not hard to find if she was doing anything bad. Her response "I am running errands, his bible study teacher asked me to leave because she said he is better when I'm not around". Mind you SS is 4 will be 5 in March and so he was still at the point where some parents could sit in the classroom and I would have never admitted to being told something like that.

2. The following day at practice I sat down beside a fellow players grandparent and engaged in conversation ignoring BM was even there and taking pictures for SO, this grandparent has known our situation and asked if SS was the same kid he knew from when he was with DH and I in which I responded "I don't get in between SS and his mom, I am here for DH" Well, SS was playing games with his mom as he would have to go pee every couple minutes or didn't feel good but on his face I could tell he was lying. I let it be it wasn't my problem I was taking for pictures for DH and that was my only job. Well after him hitting and yelling and squalling at her she bargained that if we would go practice he could have pizza for dinner, her mom then walked out to order the pizza and of course the defiant child was back. He didn't not want to listen at all - well she "needed to step outside" and left SS sitting against the wall I motioned for him to come over and he told me he just didn't want to play and I said I understood but would love to see him at least try to make a basket since I wouldn't be at the game today and he ran out to the court and was the normal kid I know until she walked back in, and then started playing the defiant I'll get what I want child again. - This made me giggle because I was concerned he really didn't feel good as I thought he was lying but his face did seem a tad flush.

3. Following Thursday practice I couldn't make it to the game today because I work most Saturdays as it works better for me to be off in the middle of the week most the time and then just have Sunday.Well I text the coach to see how he did as I do every time I can't make it the game so I don't have to get BM involved and the coaches normally text both DH and I how he did so when DH talks to him later he has an idea. Well today apparently SS was defiant cried and refused to play. Well today DH got up and had a missed call from BM (he works offshore and typically sleeps until about 11 most mornings as his watch is over at midnight but he'll stay up and help do stuff until about 4 or so most the time). So he called me to tell me good morning we talked I gave him a heads up and then he called her and she was mad at him for not picking up because she needed back up to try to getting him to play, and it wasn't fair he didn't answer because sometimes she needs help from a fellow parent in which he responded "Not my problem, he is not that kid when he is around me, if you can't get a kid to respect or listen to you, it is no longer my problem I should not be, and will not make myself a disciplinary tool in your household" She then responded that wasn't right and he said yes it was and she ended the conversation with "DH I don't need you to always point out my weaknesses it's just not right"

These were only a few things that made me giggle and feel good about myself. I hope the rest of you had a few moments as well.