Sweet Revenge!
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Okay, so after dozens of weekends out with his boys, and several arguaments about going out on SD's weekends, I have finally given my DH a little taste. My best friend and I have planned a little vacation together, and yes we are taking our own kids. When I broke the news last night, I am immediatly told that I am inconsiderate and selfish, and my response was.... "maybe just a little, but it is a learned behavior" He made himself a drink, and locked himslf in the bedroom for the night. Even though I hate to cause fights, I am looking forward to my time with my daughter and my best friend. So Dear Husband, go ahead and call me names. You're still gonna be left here all alone with YOUR OWN DAUGHTER for three whole days. 
He would never admit to it,
He would never admit to it, but no. He doesn't want to spend time with her. If he did, he would. He just does the bare minimum with her. He spends more time with my daughter than his own. My only take on it is that my daughter enjoys outdoor activities, fishing, boating, and more than anything treasure hunting. His daughter is 13, and she just wants to go shopping and eat. She is the one who needs the most time with her dad, and I have told him several times, but nothing ever comes of it. It's quite sad. He expects me to take on those responsibilites for him, and I'm just not interested.
Seems like there is no happy
Seems like there is no happy medium. Either the dad treats his daughter like "the mistress" lavishing her with attention as the girl manipulates him to no end; almost like emotional incest
OR
The dad pays virtually NO attention to his daughter.
I guess you can make up for the latter, but the former is a NIGHTMARE beyond all comprehension.