A little background:
I am a step mom of 2 girls ages 9 and 11. i have been in their lives actively for 5 years. Things are well with the bm and with my relationship with the girls! They come over every other weekend /some breaks/split holidays.

Anyway im new here and appreciate feedback from my other recent post...

So i guess i wanted to being something else up ive never actually shared with anyone becauae my husband and i are pretty private people and dont gossip..but basically the girls live w their mom mostly, who also live with their step-dad. Their stepdad has medical issues but has been waiting on any disability payments for years and may even get denied but since he doesnt work he gets medicaid and somehow was able to put the kids and bm on it as well the last 3 years. So he doesnt work but takes care of the kids-drives to school apt helps w hw ect while bm works 2 jobs and goes to school full time. So what im saying is there are no medical expenses (shes told me) and of course no day care expenses and my husband pays 600/month. Ok so i guess some people think thats low but i think thats a pretty good amount. So theres also a stepson whos there 40% of the time and stepdad has over 10k in arrears so just recently lost his license and somehow got a conditional one to care for the girls. Also, their mom has told me she gets about 8k each year from taxes. She told me yesterday she helps her older son (20 , moved out-from her first marriage) since his dad isnt actively in his life or paid cs in many years before 18. So what im basically saying is that even though bm collects 600 from my dh a month, 8k from taxes, free medical free childcare she still says shes struggling financially badly. I know you ladies prob think im nuts but i almost feel sad for her. The kids suffer greatly-she said she cant afford clothes for them and honestly we cant either but i did find some sales recently and went to voa...i guess where im going with this, is to seek other mothers/stepmothers opinions on it all...i know the girls are greatly loved i just feel so sad they arnt even raised by either of their parents and financially not even living in a decent home. Its sooo small. Like one of those houses that looks like a big room..and they have this huge great dane! Idk where they all fit...she told me this am shes pretty sure shes going to fail school, i was really hoping shed pass make better money and improve the kids lives. Again maybe this is a long rant and not really a question but maybe some mothers out there can relate or even advise on how i should be. She talks to me often and i feel she fully trusts me knowing i sincerely care about the kids. I work 3 jobs and my husband works weird hours, plus she would never agree to 50/50...we have brought it up once. Think the girls are gonna be ok?