ss12 doesnt live here...so why should i have the BM pic on my sons room bookshelf
SS12 and BS13 are sharing a room...BUT, SS12 has slept in that room 10 nights in the last 6 months...or there abouts.....his mother the weirdo stops him from coming over here....'yeap, woteva, no worries bitch'....suits me fine !!!
Anyway...I gotta ask....the little shit has a framed pic on his book shelf of his BM standing there together like some joke resemblence of a demanted happy family...him the brother and the lesbian mother...then in the next frame there is one of my husband standing their with the two spawns
I hate the fact that this sits in my sons room that the little ugly fat horror only comes to visit in occaissionaly...
Should I throw it out????
Or should I hide it and see whats said??
Or should I just pack the whole book shelf up and sell everything including his bed...hehehhehe
Oh one more thing...I actually think this was the idea of the ugly BM to put in that room cos its only appeared sometime between our engagment and our wedding....
I would take it down, and
I would take it down, and tell him that he is welcome to keep pictures of him and his BM at HER house. There is NO WAY I would allow pics of BM to be displayed in MY home. It would be one thing if we have sole custody and he only saw his mom every once in a while. I would allow that. But nah, it's not necessary with 50/50 custody or in your case when he is rarely there!!
Take it down and next time
Take it down and next time the spawn comes over, tell him to take it to his mom's, where it belongs & leave it there. I would NEVER have a picture of my man's ugly ex-mistake in my house.
I'd take it down and hide it.
I'd take it down and hide it. We don't send pics of us home with the skids, and they're at their mom's 22-24 overnights per month. That's just silly. I think they still recognize us, LOL.
Sounds for sure like a BM control move (TM). Don't stand for it. Especially if the SS is never over.
I have resident Skids, so
I have resident Skids, so they each have a pic of BM Nasty in their room. The non resident Skids have NO PIC of their BM in my home, nor will they ever. There are of course pics of ALL of the SKids throughout my home but I think that having a BM pic for an EOWE (at best) Skid is a bit much.
Do you have a drawer you could put his pic in? Obviously, the one with your DH & boys should be fine, but the one with BM can be put away.
Let's put it this way: DH and
Let's put it this way:
DH and I get Skids between EOWe and EveryWe, so, what do you think BM would do if we sent home a happy family pic of the four of us? Maybe one from our wedding? ROFLROFLROFL!!!
HAHA That would be
HAHA That would be AWESOME!
However, I have to admit that SD15 asked for a photo that I had done with SO, SD7, SS8 & I in our Cowboys Jerseys (teenage SD's were supposed to be there too but decided not to come over that weekend)...she apparently put it up in her bedroom at BM Rednecks. But SD15 has visited a whopping two times this year so I don't get it...if I were BM Redneck, I would have told her to put it away, but that's just me.
BM recently sent a picture of
BM recently sent a picture of her and her BF to our house with SS, not only did he NEVER pull it out of his Bible to look at it, I sent it RIGHT back to her house. I don't want that crap here.
I am leaning the opposite. I
I am leaning the opposite.
I say leave it. It is his personal pic and he should be able to have it in his room. My BD12 has pics of her Dad, SM & step family in HER room and not in any other room. I would be pissed if my ExBF would have thrown her pics out of her bioDad. We had a huge picture issue in that I would have to see a 8x10 wedding pic of BF & BM on my BD's wall in the room she shared with exSD12. Now that pissed me off - and i was not even asked if it was ok (they moved into my home). It did finally come down (after 2 yrs) I know it may suck there is a photo of BM, but as long as it is not an "intimate"/family photo with your DH & BM together ... i say leave it. Maybe put it on a lower shelf so you don't "notice" it so much? Or by SS's bed?
^^^^I agree with this. If it
^^^^I agree with this. If it was sent by BM to cause trouble, it would be different. The above suggestions sound reasonable. It is his mom and he isn't putting it on the fridge.
See...I think it was sent by
See...I think it was sent by BM to cause trouble as she is hell bent on causing issues constantly....It wasnt in the room before we got married but appeared just before I moved in which was 2 mths before our wedding.
And its a twin fram one of the frames is of her and the two skids the other matching frame is of DH and the 2 skids....She is a big fat dirty ugly faced lesbian and its disgusting the way she looks and dressers in the picture - I believe that the pics were planned and set up to look like 'happy families'
I guess at the end of the day it upsets me....and I dont like my son having to look at it all the time as this BM actually has spread horrible things around at me and my kids....
I like the advice of using it as a dart board
OK MAJORITY RULES....
think ill just toss it in the trash....as Im the one who lives here, Im the one who has to be happy here and the bottom line that picture upsets me....
the spoilt child has a heap of stuff on the bookshelf - of which my son has NO room to put anything of his - and he wouldnt know whats there or not....couldnt care less these days if I upset the little turd or not....
Agreed - if my DD brought
Agreed - if my DD brought home a picture from her dad's house, that would be her property and I would gladly let her keep it in her room.
These kids have other parents, and they shouldn't have to feel bad about loving them.
I don't see why her son
I don't see why her son should have to have that pic in his room. SS isn't there much, so its mainly her son's room.
I say if you don't want to take it down all together, then just replace it on his visits. If you forget sometimes. Oh well.
I wouldn't have a pic of BM in my son's room.
I say it doesn't need to be
I say it doesn't need to be there. He's barely there so he's not going to forget her on one lil overnighter. Plus its pretty much BS room. So that's just awkward having that pic up all the time when he's not there. My skids have BM pics but they are with us 80% of the time. That and the pics are in an album tucked away in their room. But I wouldn't have any problem with a pic framed and out if it was non offensive and in their room. But its only their room and like I said we have them almost full time.
Perhaps your ds should get
Perhaps your ds should get some poster size photos of you and him, you, him and dh, etc and plaster them all over the room and see if ss notices on his next visit. To me the fact that this is your ds's room too is a big issue. If your skid had his own room that you could shut the door on when he was not there I'd probably leave it-however-your poor son is required to look at that damn picture everyday of his life. If you go in YOUR son's room to talk to him-you get to look at her ugly mug.
If your ss has any sort of sense, maybe just sit down and talk to him about the fact that that is not your son's mom, nor is she related to you, and while you understand she is important to him that you and the rest of your family would just frankly rather not see her photo all the time. Tell him he can put it in an album and keep it in a drawer if he wants. He's not a little boy-he is old enough to understand that you all dont love each other.