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My fiancé is very insecure about what anyone thinks of him, therefore won't make a decision if it's against what the others want. He says "I don't want to be the bad guy". Has disciplined his 2 kids but is broken in two if the forgiving one gets mad at him.

Constantly complains about one dog we rescued but won't give the go ahead to surrender her because he doesn't want to be the bad guy.

Have any of you ever seen this change or improve with the right therapy?

Let the church say amen

I know this wasn't the point

I know this wasn't the point of your post. But what are the issues with your rescue dog? There are lots of "animal" people on here who might be able to help - so you won't feel like you have to give the dog up.

She's awesome, but she's very

She's awesome, but she's very alpha to our other dog and has left pee marks here and there. She's a Mimi pincher, and is the most loving creature in the world. But she "claims me" and gets too jealous if the other 90 pound dog comes near me. Then she growls. Fights have started. Her eyeball even popped out of its socket from a fight.

My fiancé doesn't understand dogs well and doesn't want to deal with the consequences of their love, like hers scratching up our inner door, when she hears us coming home. It's out of love.

She even sleeps under the covers with us. Super affectionate. Great with the cat and other dogs outside of the house. Always great with kids, visitors and even geriatrics.

People are on their best

People are on their best behavior before marriage. If it bothers you now, it will bother you more after marriage.

He won't change until he wants to change. If he doesn't want to be the bad guy, he won't be the bad guy.

Therapy can help if he wants to change. If he doesn't want to change all the therapy in the world won't make a difference.

Don't marry him!!!! He's

Don't marry him!!!!

He's weak. And you will grow to present that, and to lose respect for him. A huge number of the posters on this site are struggling because they are with men who are conflict avoidant. It's not a desirable trait in a man.

I fear this.

Why are so many men

Why are so many men conflict-avoidant even if they know it will screw up their future? It's such a turnoff!

I'm getting nothing when I

I'm getting nothing when I google Disney Dad

I would not marry a man that

I would not marry a man that I wanted to change. You are talking about not liking or being able to tolerate what is the core of his personality and way of being. You can't change that.

Thank you all for your

Thank you all for your thoughts. I just think I will forever be alone. I'm 50 and have never be married. We have so many similarities and love doing the same things, even art and decorating. I'm wondering if I should ignore the cowardness for the rest of the goods.

I thought I was going to be

I thought I was going to be alone forever - and was for many decades. I'd just accepted that as my lot in life. Then in my 60s I met my DH, and we just connected. He's not perfect and is by no means anyone I would even have dated even in my 40s.

But I let go of silly things like did he have as much education and money and professional success as I'd had. He's a good man (with a spine) and I really LIKE and respect him. We have so many DIFFERENT life experiences that there's always something for us to talk about.

Without respect nothing can last. I was head over heels in love with an ex. I adored him - but I never really trusted or respected him. Guess what - that didn't last long-term.